We’re sitting down with folks who have made #StillBisexual videos to find out more about their story. We recently talked to Sonya Saturday about her video.
How did you become involved in the #StillBisexual campaign?
I saw that [amBi] put out an announcement saying “We’re looking for people to do the videos” and I was like, “I like attention, I like the camera, I have things to say about being bisexual.” So I did.
Did you share the video with anyone?
Yeah, I shared it on my Instagram, and I also showed my mom. I think that was about it.
What was your mom’s response to your #StillBisexual video?
She said something like, “Oh, that’s very nice. I’m sorry you’ve never been in a happy relationship.” I was like, thanks mom.
How did it feel to have her see your video and get her response?
Honestly, I was trying not to feel too much about it simply because my family takes very little interest in anything that I do that I enjoy. So I’ve spent years showing them things that I’ve made and being like, “Look what I made, look what I did.” And they just go, like, “No, this is not what we do, no, we don’t want you to.” So it’s gotten to the point where now, whenever I show my mother something I try to not have any expectations about how she’s going to react. But she seemed to think this was okay. So, sure. It was great, I guess.
How did you feel about the video?
I like it. I like it a lot. I think it’s cute. I’ve watched it a bunch of times.
It is super cute!
Yeah, I really dig it. I think it’s a just a cool campaign. I’ve watched a bunch of the #StillBisexual videos and they’re all really great. I just love the idea. Telling your story through cards, but it’s actually the person who’s there and they’re kind of reacting to the cards that you’re reading about them. It comes across as a really cute style to me. I like it a lot.
It’s only been a couple of months since you made the video, but is there anything that’s happened in your life since then that you would add or any kind of sentiment that you would include?
I’m still bisexual. I’m still single. Uh, nothing’s changed in either of those regards. Yeah, nothing’s really changed regarding my bisexuality or dating life.
Is there anything else that you’d like to share about your experience making a #StillBisexual video or your story that you told within it?
Making the video was really fun. I really enjoyed hanging out with Nicole [Kristal, #StillBisexual founder] and the crew who were there also making videos. They were shooting a bunch of videos that day at the LGBT center. I had my whole story written out ahead of time and I just got there and wrote it on the cards and I was ready to go. They just made it a really nice, fun experience for me. It was fast and it came out really nice.
So good job to the #StillBisexual people.
That’s awesome. So one of the things that you mentioned in the video was, and it had this beautiful cadence, was that you couldn’t live as a bisexual man because you’re really a queer woman. So I wanted to check in with you and see if you identify with both queer and bisexual as labels.
Yea I call myself queer, bisexual. I also call myself pansexual. I feel like pansexual is probably the best descriptor for at least my sexual orientation but not my romantic orientation. I tend to separate those two. I consider myself pansexual because I mean, people debate should we say bi, should we say pan, like does it matter? And I’m like, it really doesn’t matter to me if you call me pansexual or bisexual, they to me both sort of mean the same thing. I’m perfectly happy calling myself bisexual. I also consider myself homoromantic almost opposed to hetero[romantic]. I like ladies, I’m a lady and I like ladies. So there you go. I consider myself pansexual because I’m okay with any gender, but I’m homoromantic because I only want to be romantic with women.
I saw the overarching message of your video as normalizing how it can take a long time for us to begin to understand ourselves. Through your journey with seeing your bisexuality, which began at seven years old, then coming out to yourself as bi around 28. Then you started transitioning in terms of gender around 35. Did you see that same normalizing theme as the overarching message of your video?
That finding yourself takes time? Yeah, that was the main message. And also someone, for God’s sake, please date me. And marry me. That was the message of my video. Those two things.
More to come with Sonya Saturday. Stay tuned! This interview has been edited and condensed.
S.B. Swartz is an author covering inclusive wellness, queer family, and entertainment. As a contributing writer for bi.org, S.B. created the Step Bi Step series for bi parents and originated the This Bi Life series showcasing bi community stories. S.B. has had interviews and essays published at Shondaland, The Establishment, Bust, Ravishly, and more.
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