Step Bi Step: What To Do With Your Time When You Finally Get Some “Me Time”



I cannot believe we are here but this is the last Step Bi Step of this limited series! I plan to bring Step Bi Step back as long as you’ll have me, but in the meantime I wanted to leave something for you, dear bi parents. So settle into your bath/bed/bunker: we’re ending on a list of bi friendly ideas that are perfect for “me time.”



Appropriate Behavior – Talia Squires gave this film (written, directed, and starring Desiree Akhavan) four unicorns, in her Unicorn Scale review.

Maxine and Shirin in Appropriate Behavior

Imagine Me & You – This is the bi-friendly rom-com you need to snuggle up to. Then read my review and tell me if you agree with my rating.

Brokeback Mountain – The framing is bierasive as hell but the movie still earns four unicorns on the scale. Reviewer Jennie Roberson calls it “truly one of the greatest romance films of the past twenty years.”


Angela Montenegró of Bones


One of the leads of the show, Angela Montenegro, made my list of favorite crime solving bi characters for her adventuresome spirit and kind ways. There’s a little something for everyone—romance, comedy, drama, mystery. This show could be shared with older kids with discretion; but most episodes start with a graphic corpse. I learned the hard way that this isn’t a show to watch over dinner. This doesn’t seem like a good sell but trust me: it’s a delightful show and a good way to get lost.

Lost Girl

Speaking of getting lost, you could also get lost with the multiple bi characters of Lost Girl, who all made my list of favorite fantasy and SciFi bi’s. This show is fun and has plenty of intrigue to pull you in. It is also very, very sexy.

The 100

Clarke Griffin is another character on my list of favorite fantasy and SciFi bi’s, and the lead of post-apocalyptic The 100. It’s a good show to take you away, plus the battles and bad-assery can be real therapeutic.


Queery with Cameron Esposito – Cameron Esposito sits down in conversation with fellow queer folks. Bi guests include Travon Free, Roxane Gay, Stephanie Beatriz, Evan Rachel Wood, AND MORE.

Dear Prudence – If you like advice columns then put your headphones on and float away with this one! Host Daniel Mallory Ortberg is trans and bi, which means you won’t have to deal with the bi- and transphobic advice and erasure so many columns are prone to.

This 2018 Summer Bi Playlist I made for you – Over half of the songs have swear words, and 100% of them are very good.


I recently created a self-soothing kit and I am SO GLAD I DID. Based on a concept from Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), a self-soothe kit uses your five senses to bring calm. There are a lot of ideas on pinterest, and I find this short how-to from Creativity in Therapy to be especially helpful.

I’m going to miss you all! While Step Bi Step is on hiatus, be sure to read and share your favorites from the first season. I hope I hear from you if you have an idea that you’d like to see in a future Step Bi Step. And be sure to join me next time so we can keep figuring this parenting thing out together—step bi step.


SB Swartz
S.B. Swartz is an author covering inclusive wellness, queer family, and entertainment. As a contributing writer for, S.B. created the Step Bi Step series for bi parents and originated the This Bi Life series showcasing bi community stories. S.B. has had interviews and essays published at Shondaland, The Establishment, Bust, Ravishly, and more.

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