United States

Hi, I‘m Tato. I am Bisexual.

I'm 28, male, married. I live in Corona, CA. It's very boring here - haha. I'm a fun combination of geek, intellectual, smart ass, weirdo, artist etc but most importantly I'm a good guy. I am very openminded and accepting as a person. I'd like to make new friends from all walks of life. I don't care if you're gay, straight, bi, trans, queer, tall, short, fat, skinny, black, white, or green. I love horror movies, I'm a huge music fan (punk, hardcore, synth pop, post-hardcore, surf, garage rock, honky tonk and many more), I love to cook (especially vegan food), I love reading especially hp lovecraft and philip k dick, I love sci fi (star trek, star wars, dr. who, cyberpunk, red dwarf), video games (earthbound, final fantasy 2 & 3, chrono trigger, street fighter, mortal kombat, fallout 3, elder scrolls, doom, quake, duke nukem, chex quest, columns, tetris), pro wrestling (especially from the 80's and 90's, the paranormal, the occult, MST3K, British Comedy, B-movies, X-files and millennium, Tales from the Crypt, kids in the hall, comic books/graphic novels (Preacher, The Boys, Transmetropolitan, Punisher Max to name a few).

What being bisexual means to me

Honestly I don't really know yet. I've only recently realized what I am. I struggled with it for a month or two and then finally came out to my wife.

What I would like the world to know about bisexuals

That we exist!!

What was your path to a bisexual identity?

A lot of missteps, mistakes, and mishaps. I really felt that something was wrong with me and only when I essentially couldn't handle lying anymore did it get better. My wife was so amazing when I came out to her. She handled it so well and made me feel so much better about myself. I sincerely hope that everyone has someone like my wife that accepts them for who they are right off the bat.

What is the toughest thing about being bisexual?

Knowing that I'm bisexual but never having had sexual or romantic contact with a man. I am married and totally devoted to my wife but it makes things difficult for both of us knowing that I have feelings and urges I can't and won't act on.

What is the best thing about being bisexual?

I get to enjoy admiring the attributes of both sexes.

How have other people in your life reacted to your bisexuality?

The only person I've told is my wife.

What advice do you have for someone who thinks they may be bi or who is in the process of coming out as bi?

Listen to your heart, be safe but test your boundaries. It's incredibly important to look inside and to get to know the beautiful person that is you.