Male

Bisexual

United States



Hi, I‘m Jonathan. I am Bisexual.

My name is Jonathan and I am a high school Band Director so to be pre-med student I'm am a fun loving, laid back guy who is a big kid at heart. Usually my nieces and nephews have to tell me to behave when we go into stores because Im that adult that sets off and plays with the toys. I am the youngest of 4. Sadly, my only sister passed away of breast cancer In March of 2013, just 10 months after our father lost his battle with pancreatic cancer. I have 8 nieces and nephews whom I love like my own kids and treat them as such. If you ever watched "The Bernie Mac Show", I'm Uncle Bernie, LOL. I am a big family person. I love my family and friends to death. They have kept me going during the last 3-4 years of difficulty I and my family have encountered and I would have their back just as they have had mine.

What being bisexual means to me

Being bisexual means I'm pretty much guaranteed a date on Friday nights. I wish! Actually that's one of the hardest parts of being bi for me. In all honesty, it means enjoying both the beauty of both men and women, both physically, sexually, and emotionally. I don't like to think of it as being attracted to one two genders, but being attracted to people in general.

What I would like the world to know about bisexuals

WE ARE NOT ALL POLYAMOROUS AND INTO OPEN RELATIONSHIPS. Some people are, I am not. I personally don't believe in polyamory or open relationship and would rather be single with a pet than be in one of those types of relationships. If I can get one thing across to people is that many bisexual still believe in monogamy PERIOD.

What was your path to a bisexual identity?

Since puberty I always knew I liked both men and women. Through high school and some college I figured it was a just phase, like everyone says. After that, I rationalized it away by thinking I was just curious. But turns out I wasn't curious either - I still had the same attractions I always had. I was and am bisexual.

In April of 2012 I finally owned up to who I was by telling my extremely LGBT friendly niece that I was Bisexual. She was ecstatic and immediately asked me "Zac Efron or Taylor Laughtner?"

I then told one of my best friends who is gay and was proud that I was taking the first steps to coming out. I later told more friends, all of whom are either gay, bi, or very supportive.

I decided that I wasn't going to tell my family until there was something to tell. Meaning, until I actually brought home a boyfriend. I kept up with that for 2 years until finally I just couldn't. On June 18th of 2014, the day I consider as my official coming out day, I told my very old-school, very catholic, southern raised Mother that I was bi. the responds I got was not what I had expected. Her first question was, "Do you have a boyfriend" I answered no, and she said she had suspected something, and that she was behind me 100% and to remember to always be safe. I later told my brothers, sister in law, and two of my other nieces. My whole family is very supportive. I have other family members who don't know or I haven't confirmed it yet, but all that matters to me is that my immediate family is accepting. Their opinion is the only one that matters to me.

What is the toughest thing about being bisexual?

While I don't like any of the stereotypes surrounding bisexuality, the one that bothers me the most and is hardest for me to deal with is that to often bisexuality is equated with polyamory or non-monogamy. Of all the stereotypes, that one bothers me the most.

I, am a PROUD, MONOGAMOUS, bisexual. Both physically and emotionally, because to me, the go hand in hand.

What is the best thing about being bisexual?

Being able to find love in the person, not the gender. If I fall in love with a man, so be it. If the love of my life turns out to be a woman, so be it. Gender doesn't matter, just the love.

How have other people in your life reacted to your bisexuality?

So far, no negative reactions. I'm sure I'll experience some, but none as of yet. Like I said, my immediate family knows and is supportive, and that's all that matters to me.
I don't blurt out every chance I get that I'm Bi, so some people don't know yet. But they will when they need to know.

What advice do you have for someone who thinks they may be bi or who is in the process of coming out as bi?

You'll know. I went 17 years thinking it was a phase or curiosity before I admitted to myself. You'll know.

When coming out, come out to those who you KNOW will be supportive first. It makes it easier to come out to family, and should your family not be supportive, you know you'll have someone in your corner.