Female

Pansexual

Canada



Hi, I‘m Kimmi. I am Pansexual.

I am masters student at the University of Waterloo's school of public health and health systems. I love my research in yoga, meditation, and cognitive-emotional health. Broader research interests include social determinants of health, most particularly in the realms of social stigma and mental health. My research blog: [theflowchannel.com]. Although I am a passionate scientist, I cannot neglect my creative/ artistic side. I am a fine artist and spoken word poet. These creative mediums are a way of which I am able to express my thoughts, ideas, and emotions. My portfolio: [kimberleyluu.deviantart.com].

What being bisexual means to me

Pansexuality to me simply means that I am more interested in someone's soul rather than their body. I am attracted to people's authentic selves and their expressions of human vulnerability. I believe that bodies are simply vessels our souls were born in, and I see beauty in all body types, shapes, and sizes.

What I would like the world to know about bisexuals

Pansexual does not = hedonist.

What was your path to a bisexual identity?

I did not discover my pansexuality until I was 23. Since I was a teenager, I had always had sex dreams with men and women but would brush this off. I also felt extremely emotionally connected and sexually attracted to my former best friend when I was 20 years old-- I brushed this off as well. These things seem to be finally catching up to me however.

Recently I have been feeling more and more attraction towards women over men, and more aroused at the idea of being with women sexually. I am currently in a relationship with a man, and the sweetest one I have been with. It is difficult because I have lesbian sex dreams twice a week, and have been feeling suppressed. I love my boyfriend, but I have felt less and less inclined to have sex with him. During masterbation, I feel aroused when I think about him, but much more so when I think about women.

I have felt deep emotional connections to transgendered friends. I have never been sexual with a trans person before, but I know that I could.

It is difficult to understand where I am at in the Kinsey scale, but I will remain optimistic.

What is the toughest thing about being bisexual?

Approaching an unsupportive LGBT community and feeling extremely stigmatized within. It has been hard realizing that discrimination will come from both homosexual and heterosexual groups. It hurt to be accused of "jumping on the bisexual bandwagon" when it has been a very anxious time for me finding the courage to seek support.

What is the best thing about being bisexual?

Not sure at this point. :(

How have other people in your life reacted to your bisexuality?

My boyfriend has been trying his best to be supportive. He has been trying to understand me better though it's not 100% quite yet. I have confided in a few questioners, trans persons and other bisexuals. They have all been better nice and supportive. I have yet to come out to most of my friends and family.

What advice do you have for someone who thinks they may be bi or who is in the process of coming out as bi?

Go forth but with caution. Give yourself time* to identify who is a true ally. Many left wingers still believe many bisexual myths, and will spite you for it unfortunately. This is a hard truth for my case, so I would just be sure to form your alliance slowly and carefully.