United Kingdom

Hi, I‘m Cat. I am Bisexual.

I was born in Belfast, Northern Ireland in 1979. I moved to England when I was 3, eventually settling in Yorkshire when I was 6. I first became aware of there being such a thing as bisexuality when I was 9 from a book that I got out of the library. I started identifying as bisexual when I was 14 when my teenage hormones began rampaging. I was lucky that my close friends seemed to be quite accepting and I started dabbling sexually with boys and girls in my teens. I went to uni in London and after uni I moved back up north and not long after I went to my first BiCon. Since attending BiCon I got more involved with the bi community, and even indulged in a bit of activism here and there. I tried to run a bi group in the mid 2000s which folded, I've written for Bi Community News over the years (including a stint writing regularly for the column on bisexuality in the media), I was on the organising team for BiCon 2012 and have assisted the 2013 and 2014 teams by administering their Equalities Fund. These days I'm in my mid 30s and live in a small city in East Anglia with my young family and work for a local college. I'm trying to get involved in doing more bi activism locally and am organising a local event for Bi Visibility Day on 23rd September this year. Life is a lot less about sex, drugs and rock and roll these days but I like how it is and I'm looking forward to the future.

What being bisexual means to me

For me, bisexuality means that gender isn't important when it comes to being attracted to somebody.

What I would like the world to know about bisexuals

We're not greedy, lying, cheating, disease spreading wastes of space.

What was your path to a bisexual identity?

I didn't really have a path, as such - I started how I meant to go on...

What is the toughest thing about being bisexual?

Prejudice from within the LGBT community.

What is the best thing about being bisexual?

Not being limited in my sexual attraction and experience.

How have other people in your life reacted to your bisexuality?

People say that bisexuals are confused? To be honest other people seem a lot more confused about my sexuality than I am...

What advice do you have for someone who thinks they may be bi or who is in the process of coming out as bi?

If your experience is anything like mine you'll have to keep coming out again and again - people tend to pigeonhole your sexuality as either gay or straight depending on what gender your partner at the time happens to be.