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Hi, I‘m Margo. I am Bisexual.

Hi, I'm Margo. I'm a retired teacher and a professional actor. For years I was involved with soley men, but in my twenties and thirties, I found myself attracted to women also. This confused me because both attractions were very real. I usually hid my attraction to women from my teaching colleagues for fear of discrimination. Over the years, I got engaged to three different men, whom I genuinely loved, but each ended because of reasons unrelated to my sexuality. Eventually I happily found my life partner, a woman, of fifteen years. My attraction to both sexes continued but I believe in monogamy, thus I remain happily in my relationship. Many people warned me against therapy, but I must say my therapist was very supportive of bisexuality. Her quote, "You are not a lesbian. I treat lesbians and they've never enjoyed the intimacy with men that you have." I am bisexual, but I love my partner. I control my attraction to both genders because my relationship is very fulfilling. My partner wrote a movie about the origins of our relationship. It's called "Cassanova was a Woman". I think all bisexuals can relate to it. To see a trailer of it: www.kickstarter.com/projects/221666836/cassanova-was-a-woman Our relationship runs very smoothly, but for entertainment purposes, she fictionalized aspects of the movie.

What being bisexual means to me

I love people. Bisexuality is openness. It's crashing down society induced barriers. I was born this way and know no other. I'm a very happy, grounded person.

What I would like the world to know about bisexuals

I would like the world to stop discriminating against bisexuality or disbelieving in its existence.

What was your path to a bisexual identity?

I initially dated men, but in my twenties, I had a brief affair with a woman. I then was engaged to two different men in my thirties. In my forties, I had brief affairs with both men and women. At 45, I met a woman who became the love of my life.

What is the toughest thing about being bisexual?

Listening to society's disbelief of its existence; I suffered while trying to be either straight or gay.

What is the best thing about being bisexual?

Liberation from society's constraints. Openness.

How have other people in your life reacted to your bisexuality?

When I was with men, they thought me straight. Now that I'm with a woman, they think I'm gay. My closest friends know that I'm bisexual and readily accept it.

What advice do you have for someone who thinks they may be bi or who is in the process of coming out as bi?

Go with your feelings. If you care for someone, despite the gender, feel free to enjoy that person.