Female

Bisexual

United States



Hi, I‘m Kemi. I am Bisexual.

I'm an East Coast girl living it up in West Coast world of California. I'm exploring my bisexuality now in an environment which I am free to do so and loving every minute of it. I enjoy meeting new people, music, dancing, traveling, and reading.

What being bisexual means to me

Being bisexual to me is not about who you are sleeping with, more of who you fall in love with, not the physical aspect of the person but the spiritual. Bisexuality means opening yourself up to other possibilities, to love who you love without labels.

What I would like the world to know about bisexuals

That we exist, and not just in porn. I feel that bisexuality is kept in the dark and people need to realize it is not a faze and we are human beings just like everyone else.

What was your path to a bisexual identity?

My path was an unusual one. Growing up I didn't have any notion that I liked boys and girls, I was a shy child that kept to herself and had few friends. I knew what gay and lesbian meant and that didn't bother me at all, it wasn't until in high school that I heard the word bisexual. Fast forward to college when I realized I had a crush on a female friend of mine, even then I thought it was just a faze or I was a LUG (Lesbian Until Graduation). It wasn't until I got my heart broken by a woman--and later a man--that I realized I was bisexual; then meeting other bisexuals I realized why did I have to hide?

What is the toughest thing about being bisexual?

The stereotypes are loud and clear. Many people assumed I was on "the path to being a lesbian" or I was "confused", or they must've been something traumatic that happened to me as a child that made me become bisexual. I've even had friends and family members dismiss my bisexuality, as it was the flavor of the week. I also feel that sometimes we are not supported in the GLBT community; many times I've been to events where I was treated with distrust and disgust. It's still an uphill battle.

What is the best thing about being bisexual?

I don't think there's any "best thing" about being bisexual; a person who is gay, straight, or lesbian could say their own opinion but I don't believe one orientation is better than the other. What I can say is that meeting with bisexual people that there is no judgement in regards who you date or sleep with. We understand the struggles, but at the same time we are open and honest.

Not going to lie, it also means I have a 100% of a date on Saturday nights.

How have other people in your life reacted to your bisexuality?

Bisexuality is a part of who I am--it's not ALL that I am--but it's a huge part. I don't feel I need to explain it to them--they don't need to explain their straightness to me--but I hope by knowing me as a person, their negative perceptions of bisexuality will change.