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Hi, I‘m Michelle. I am Bisexual.

I'm a professor who lives in the Pasadena, CA area. I'm a cinephile, an international traveler, a tea-lover and a chocoholic. I also love organizing and participating in events for amBi (=an awesome Socal based bi meetup group). I just participated in my first Pride! :)

What being bisexual means to me

Being open and embracing sexuality and life fully and richly. Even though I could do without stereotypical gender roles, I am not oblivious to gender (as paradoxical as that may seem); on the contrary, I am aware of it, including blurry and fluid forms thereof, and appreciate gender bending.

What I would like the world to know about bisexuals

We're not going to decide; we have decided (to embrace our desires, emotions and ourselves). Also, bisexuality takes many forms; it is rich and varied.

What was your path to a bisexual identity?

I opened up at around age 40. I didn't repress my bisexuality before that, but I wasn't confident enough to explore my sexuality. It happened when i was ready for it. Wow!

What is the toughest thing about being bisexual?

For me, as a woman who travels in liberal circles, being bi is not difficult. That said, some of the cliched reactions can be really annoying (ie you're so lucky, it's twice as easy to meet sexual/romantic partners).

What is the best thing about being bisexual?

Openness and exploration - the slippery slope from bisexuality to non-monogamy (though there are plenty of monogamous bisexuals, of course). Also active participation in amBi has enriched my life enormously, allowing me to become part of the LA bisexual community, to meet amazingly wonderful people and to continue exploring myself and opening new doors.

How have other people in your life reacted to your bisexuality?

I'm quite lucky to travel in liberal, openminded circles, so reactions have really been pretty great overall. It took my family members by surprise and some are "more ok" than others, but i figure any issues are theirs, not mine and they are really pretty openminded and I'm thankful for that.