Male

Bisexual

United States



Hi, I‘m Doug. I am Bisexual.

I am a Free Spirit, living in a world that often seems confining, lost, going the wrong way. Not this beautiful Earth that we have been given, but the one that Man (and I use that term on purpose) has made of it. I am most comfortable in the Wild, the raw gift of Mother's body. I am a spiritualist, an artist, a nurse, and I practice Men's Work, as a way of tipping the balance, even just a tiny bit, towards a healthy way of living. I am a trained psychic, a clairvoyant, and I have seen too many of my past lives to think that this is all I am, what I am able to bring through this Male body, during this time of great change. I am definitely a positivist, about Life in general. The freedom we have now, compared to what we have known in the past! To even be able to speak these words - we have much to be thankful for.

What being bisexual means to me

It's the only thing that makes sense to me! I remember when I finally figured it out, that this is what I am, and I told a dear, spiritual friend about it. Her answer: "But, I thought we all are - bisexual!" I like Angelina Jolie's answer, when asked by Barbara Walters if she was bisexual -"Of course!" I mean, I believe in reincarnation, THAT is the only thing that makes sense, as well, and I know that I have been in a female body before, many times. How could the Love I felt for Men, in those lifetimes, not be a part of my makeup? Spirit first. Body second. Sex third. I call it Freedom.

What I would like the world to know about bisexuals

Get over it, people. What, are you scared you might be missing out on something? You know, you might have something there. I mean, the major problems I might have with being bisexual are entirely social - the environment I find myself in at this time. Over the ages that we have been upon this Earth, there have been many times of more and lesser freedom. It's my body, you know, and it's really none of your business, anyway. Hell, I've been persecuted as a witch, in past lives, just for being different. It's the old male domination of the female thing - got to keep them down, before they figure out we're scared of them! Love is ALL that matters, and don't try to define what that looks like for me, please - it's MY heart.

What was your path to a bisexual identity?

The usual see-saw.....Am I gay? Am I straight? Am I gay? Am I straight?........Then, one day, a good friend asked me "It sure seems like you talk about how you SHOULD feel, a lot of the time. If you just let yourself be, what would that look like? Have you ever thought that you might be Bisexual" talk about a breakthrough! Of course, in there, was 2 long marriages, with wonderful women, that just didn't quite fit the bill. And me cheating on them (which I now know was inexcusable!), with men, then feeling like shit afterwards. I just didn't know that there might be an alternative! Now, I'm alone, which I set up on purpose, because I knew I had to figure this thing out, and I didn't want to hurt anyone, anymore. Wish I would have known about this a long time ago, but then, that's not how it was meant to go. You have to find out what's right for you, without running over anyone else, in the process

What is the toughest thing about being bisexual?

Fitting it into society. Finding someone(s) who accept me for the way I am, and not try to turn me into something else. Dealing with sometimes being into men, sometimes women. It is a bit of a see-saw, really. But then, see-saws can be fun!

What is the best thing about being bisexual?

Open Heart. Freed Sexuality. Unfortunately, I haven't had enough experience with it, to really know how it can be. I have fantasies, dreams, of course. The world is my play-ground! Bottom Line: I get to love ALL humanity, not just half of it.

How have other people in your life reacted to your bisexuality?

I once told a circle of about 30 predominately straight guys, when asked to reveal a hidden part of ourselves, about my attraction to men. When it was over, I was totally shocked to have men coming up to me and saying "you've got a lot of Balls, to talk that way! There's no way I could be that revealing!" There's a time and a place to make a stand. I'm not particularly interested in everybody else's sexual proclivities, so I respect that that goes the other way, too. Those who know, care. Those who don't, probably don't know a lot of things about me! Probably because they never cared to find out. Or were just too scared - like most of us.

What advice do you have for someone who thinks they may be bi or who is in the process of coming out as bi?

If you have gotten this far, I think you should be able to figure out, that this is probably the place for you. And like I said - choose your battles wisely. Does your boss really need to know? And anyway, why do you need to tell? If it's an important part of your self-expression, then go for it. If not, be cool, you'll know when, where, and with whom to reveal your true nature. The important thing is - you know. You have a place. You belong. Here. Welcome!