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Hi, I‘m Francesca. I am Bisexual.

I'm an ordained Interfaith Minister and Independent Sacramental priest, living in Brooklyn, New York, with my spouse (neither of us likes the word wife) Lynn and our two cats, Alice and Gracie. Lynn and I were legally married in May of 2013 and have been a couple since 2009. My ministry includes weddings for all couples (straight as well as LGBT) and I'm also Pastor of a non-denomnational Christian congregation. I also dance (for both love and money.) These days I'm teaching children's ballet classes, dancing with a bellydance troupe and starting to learn ballroom dance with my lovely Lynn. I write, for pleasure and publication and have written about bisexuality, specifically, for Bi Women, Pretty Queer and Venus Blogs.

What being bisexual means to me

It means that I have the capacity to love people, regardless of gender.

What I would like the world to know about bisexuals

We can be as loving, loyal, honest and honorable as anybody else.

What was your path to a bisexual identity?

I have known I was bisexual since I first heard the word, when I was about eleven. My parents had friends who identified as bisexual (as well as some who were gay or lesbian.) I knew that my crushes had been on both boys and girls. The word bisexual simply gave a name to my self-awareness.

What is the toughest thing about being bisexual?

Dealing with people who are ignorant or downright hostile, especially those who believe bisexuals "don't exist" or that we are incapable of loving and being in serious, committed relationships.

What is the best thing about being bisexual?

The fact that I've had a life containing wonderful romantic relationships with men and women. The fact that I'm married to a woman now does not make me regret the men (as well as women) in my past. I haven't been promiscuous but, like most American women of my generation, I've had a number of (serially monogamous) relationships. All were blessings and learning experiences.

How have other people in your life reacted to your bisexuality?

As you might guess (since they had LGBTQ friends) my parents were supportive; they still are. My real friends get it and anyone who doesn't won't be a real friend, for me. My spouse, Lynn, identifies as lesbian. She has been wonderful about supporting me in my efforts to be out, proud and part of the solution, even though her identity differs from mine.