Male

Bisexual

United States



Hi, I‘m Chad. I am Bisexual.

I'm a writer, traveler, musician and I work in the event industry. I currently have just moved from Hanoi, Vietnam to Palm Springs California. Prior to that I lived in Brooklyn NY for about 13 years. I'm a funny guy who likes to tell long colorful stories. I enjoy good food, good people and the great outdoors.

What being bisexual means to me

It means I can love whoever I want to love

What I would like the world to know about bisexuals

That we exist.

What was your path to a bisexual identity?

I've always known I was Bi but had to "choose" for many years between Gay and Hetero relationships. I had a lot of really hard, confusing years when I was younger.
I've only managed to be out as Bi with my romantic partners and close friends. Seeing more acceptance of Bisexuality has encouraged me to be more and more "out". What a relief!

What is the toughest thing about being bisexual?

Non acceptance from others. Finding other Bi people to relate to!

What is the best thing about being bisexual?

Having a heart capable of loving beyond gender.

How have other people in your life reacted to your bisexuality?

Mostly positively among my close friends.
I have had some problems within the gay community but I see that less and less. I've had to adopt an attitude of not caring what other people think. Its another story when it comes to someone I fall in love with....
The most negative and confusing reaction was when a woman I was in love with and living with for 5 years said to me in surprise, "You still consider yourself Bi?"
I was very disappointed, I thought we knew eachother..

What advice do you have for someone who thinks they may be bi or who is in the process of coming out as bi?

Be OUT, the sooner the better, if for no other reason than to meet other Bi people. I really think Bi people should date other Bi people. It makes the most sense.
I've enjoyed relationships the most with other bisexuals (even "a little bit bi").

Other than that, I try not to make a big deal out of it. I know who I am.