United States

Hi, I‘m Stacy. I am Heteroflexible.

I am totally into permaculture, green living, organics, and all that... I am a non-conformist, a mold-breaker, and I do not fit into any single stereotype. I love to ride bikes (both kinds, but the thrill is far greater on a Harley than a Schwinn). I'm a hippie, earth-loving, natural, earthy, let your hair down, garden naked, and sleep in the garden kind of gal. I wear my skirts too short, my heels too high, go barefoot, wear my boots too tall, wear too much black and too many bright colors. I show too much skin. I didn't put make up on. I quit shaving to impress others. I love erotica, romance, passion, and intimate experiences... I play with toys. I play in the dirt. Sometimes I read till dawn. I sew, cook, bake, can, knit, crochet, do bead work, make jewelry, and many other things that I can't even think of right now. I have Peter Pan syndrome. I love to dance - any kind - I just can't hold still when there's music on. I birthed five kids and have 3 more bonus kids, along with 2 dogs, a tarantula, and 12 chickens. And I am in desperate need of a vacation. I finally reached a place where I honestly don't care if I offend anyone by being ME. I will be true to me. I will stop being a pleaser for everyone else and stop pretending to be what y'all expect of me. If you don't like it, then it's your problem, NOT mine! I am not here to be who you want me to be. It took a lifetime to get where I am, and I'm sure I'm not where I'm going, yet! (and I still didn't begin to tell you who I am)

What being bisexual means to me

Being bi to me, means that you love who you love. I, personally, have a much stronger preference for men, and bi men at that. I'm in a long term relationship with my soulmate: head over heals. He's bi, also.

What I would like the world to know about bisexuals

We aren't any different than anyone else.

What was your path to a bisexual identity?

I was raised in an ultra-conservative home. I had a few eye-opening sexual experiences. I was still straight, but far more open in many ways, over a number of years.

My partner thought it would be hot if I would try to make out with a girl, so I did for him. This led to other things. I found my "groove" and then encouraged him to do the same. We are, together, finding our preferences: what we like and don't. It truly helps to have someone who you can trust, support you in your journey to self-discovery.

What is the toughest thing about being bisexual?

Coming out. Our families do not know. I think several of our kids will be ok with it, but other family members would not begin to understand.

And, why do we only get to pick one option for self-identification. Why can't I say, "I'm hetero-flexible, in a relationship with a bisexual?" Why do I have to be in ONE box (refer to the about me section). This may be one of the toughest things.... ;)

What is the best thing about being bisexual?

I don't know about "best," but it's fun trying to figure this out!

How have other people in your life reacted to your bisexuality?

The friends who know are supportive.

What advice do you have for someone who thinks they may be bi or who is in the process of coming out as bi?

It's freeing to be able to be yourself and to talk about things with others.