Female

Bisexual

United States



Hi, I‘m Nicole. I am Bisexual.

I am a life long Vermonter. I am married to a great man who I have been with since my teen and have 3 children. I work in a police department as a clerk. I enjoy being outside but never seem to get out enough.

What being bisexual means to me

Finally a place where I belong. I am attracted to both males and females.

What I would like the world to know about bisexuals

For young girls and guys I would like them to know that it is an option and there is nothing wrong with you.

What was your path to a bisexual identity?

I have always been attracted to both men and women but never really thought about being sexual with a woman. I guess I feel no one ever told me it was an option when I was young. I recently accepted that I am attracted to women too and I have had a few intimate relationships with a couple women and I felt like a light bulb went off. I realized at that moment that I was bisexual and I'm so much happier.

What is the toughest thing about being bisexual?

Stereotyping. The years of being confused about what I was because society doesn't treat bisexuality as real.

What is the best thing about being bisexual?

Knowing I can love and be attracted to both sexes.

How have other people in your life reacted to your bisexuality?

Only a few people know. I told my husband. He is fine with the idea of me being but he doesn't know I have been with women. Not sure how he would feel if he knew that. Two of my guy friends where very supportive and the one close girlfriend I told was ok with it too. There are people I am afraid to tell because of there reactions.

What advice do you have for someone who thinks they may be bi or who is in the process of coming out as bi?

Still in this stage so I don't have any advice really. I know for me that being with a woman opened my world to who I truly was and I now feel better and less confused.