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Hi, I‘m James. I am Bisexual.

I am a bisexual man from Tampa, Florida. I am married to a straight, awesome, woman. We grew up in the Mormon church. I've worked in the pest-control industry for 14 years. I graduated from high school in Las Vegas. Never went to college. My dad was in the Army, so I moved around a lot. I love sports. In high school, I played football, wrestled, and was on the men's volleyball team. I enjoy playing sports, shooting guns (at paper targets), watching TV and movies, spending time with family, and just having fun. My wife is understanding and accepting of my bisexuality. I am 40 and just came to grips with the fact that I am bisexual.

What being bisexual means to me

Well for me, I am more attracted to women then men. As I told my wife, I couldn't be in a romantic relationship with a man. I could spend a weekend with a guy, but no intimacy.

What I would like the world to know about bisexuals

That we do exist and it isn't a choice.

What was your path to a bisexual identity?

I started fooling around with boys and girls at the age of 4. But, that stopped around 13 and I switched my outward focus to girls. Only in my dreams and my fantasies would I think about both genders. Growing up in the Mormon church I had to bury my feelings toward guys. As I got older, my feelings keep getting more intense. Then it just got to the point that I could not deny it anymore. Once I accepted it, a big burden was lifted off my heart and shoulders. When I told my wife, she just said it was about time I accepted myself.

What is the toughest thing about being bisexual?

For me, it's just getting over the fact that I'm not evil just because I like both men and women.

What is the best thing about being bisexual?

Enjoying the best of both worlds.

How have other people in your life reacted to your bisexuality?

The only person in my life that knows is my wife. She loves me as I am. Most people in my life wouldn't understand and would say I am a sinner.

What advice do you have for someone who thinks they may be bi or who is in the process of coming out as bi?

The sooner you accept yourself the better you will feel about yourself.