United States

Hi, I‘m Jude. I am Bisexual.

I am a native Texan (yes I can ride a horse and shoot a gun). I love nature, people, animals and most of all this crazy life, movies, books, music and dancing (in my kitchen). I am an active supporter of various environmental causes too numerous to mention and a strong supporter of Planned Parenthood (even though I am a Mom - by choice), and other related organizations because all women should always have the right to choose.

What being bisexual means to me

I was born bisexual so it's just "being me". It was somewhere in grade school that I first heard the word "Lesbian" spit at me in disgust and was shocked to discover that girls were only supposed to like boys. But I was still happy I loved both and was only sorry for other people to be cheated by half. There is such a range of degree on what it means to be a woman or man or trans, from ultra feminine to ultra butch and various shades between or the ability to express both ends of the spectrum equally. In the end we are all just people of varying expression and gender lines can be so often blurred. Sex itself is a collection of multitudinous forms of physical expression with or without varying degrees of emotional connection. And one can truly love and be in love with a person on a purely emotional non-physical level. In between are various facets of emotional and physical connections. I feel blessed to have been able to experience in my life an extraordinarily diverse range of sex, emotion, and love with an extraordinarily diverse range of persons.

What I would like the world to know about bisexuals

Number one, that a man truly can be bisexual! We women do have it a bit easier as many accept that women can be bisexual without being homosexual but turn around and say that men can only be homosexual or straight. Nonsense. People can be bisexual, or heterosexual, or homosexual or just whatever they are born to be or choose to be. Number two, that bisexuals are much more than the sex - we love "people" just as they are for what and who they are and can be fantastic friends and companions. We have wondrously open minds and the ability to see beyond norms, lines and structure. Number three, that despite the fact that we can be attracted to a range of persons, we can be monogamous if we choose to be just like anyone else can be if they choose to be.

What was your path to a bisexual identity?

There was no path. Born this way and embraced it in childhood - I have never felt shame or questioned my attractions.

What is the toughest thing about being bisexual?

Being caught in the middle of other people's fears with women being afraid you'll run off with a man while the men are afraid you'll run off with a woman or (worse) want to use you to lure a woman into bed so they can have two. I will also be honest and say that there are things about a woman I do miss when I'm with a man and things about a man I do miss I'm with a woman but in the end you make your best choice just like anyone else does and if you are lucky you find a person that understands and accepts what you are and how you feel and is willing to share in your journey making the choice so much easier.

What is the best thing about being bisexual?

Everything. The open mind. The freedom to choose. The range of experience.