United States

Hi, I‘m Becky. I am Bisexual.

Hello everyone, I am Becky. I am 27 years old. I have 3 kids: 2 boys and a girl. I am married to my wonderful husband. I am Wiccan. I work as a customer service representative at TLCA. I live in Iowa. I am a goth. I love anime and metal.

What being bisexual means to me

To me, bisexual means that I like both girls and guys.

What I would like the world to know about bisexuals

That just because a bisexual is married, it doesn't make them gay, straight, or lesbian.... they are still a bisexual.

What was your path to a bisexual identity?

I knew from a very young age I was bisexual, but I didn't know the word for it until high school. I also kept it hidden, up until that point, as well. After I came out, I felt relieved, but I also had some hard times. My grandparents, whom I lived, with didn't approve at all. My counselor tried to tell me I wasn't bi--that I was just experimenting. My mom and aunt were supportive, and loved me for me.

What is the toughest thing about being bisexual?

The fear of how others will react after meeting me and finding out I am bi.

What is the best thing about being bisexual?

That I can find love with both men and women.

How have other people in your life reacted to your bisexuality?

Some people have reacted well, and others, badly. My mom and aunt were very supportive. My grandparents were very judgmental. Most of my friends were supportive, but a few weren't. My counselor tried to tell me I wasn't bi.

What advice do you have for someone who thinks they may be bi or who is in the process of coming out as bi?

Be true to yourself, always, and don't hide it because the right people will like you for you. And, don't ever let someone try to tell you that you aren't who you say you are.