United States

Hi, I‘m Madison. I am Bisexual.

I am from the southeastern United States. For the longest time, my identity was wrapped up in the church. I was raised as a Christian, with my dad being the worship pastor in every church we were a part of. But then, we started having a lot of trouble with the churches we went to. There were power trips and giant egos getting in the way of what church was really supposed to be about, so now I don't attend church anymore. I still believe in God, but I'm not really sure where I stand with my faith right now, if I'm being perfectly honest. I have just graduated from Auburn University with a degree in psychology, and I plan to attend grad school next year for marriage and family therapy. We'll see how that all pans out. I am a textbook introvert. I don't go anywhere without some way to listen to music, because sometimes it's nice to shut out the world for a little while. And, I am bisexual. If you're at all interested in knowing more, message me.

What being bisexual means to me

To me, being bisexual is really simple. I am attracted to both men and women. And, if I found someone I was really into, their identified gender wouldn't matter as much to me as who they are as a person. And, that's it.

What I would like the world to know about bisexuals

I don't think that I can speak for all bisexuals, but as far as I go, I'd just want the world to know that being bi is just part of who I am. There's so much more to me than just that, and I think it's important to consider the person as a whole, not just in bits and pieces.

What was your path to a bisexual identity?

I can remember as far back as, at least, elementary school, having some feelings for girl friends of mine, but being that young, I never thought anything of it. After hitting puberty, those kinds of feelings became stronger, but I chalked it up to caring a lot about my friends, and just being a good friend to them. It wasn't until I was a freshman in college, that I figured out how to define those feelings, but I didn't feel all that comfortable considering myself to be bi. It took until senior year of college for me to really accept being bi and become comfortable with it.

What is the toughest thing about being bisexual?

So far, the toughest thing is watching people dismiss bisexuality as a phase, or saying it's not a legitimate form of sexuality. A lot of people seem to think that you have to either be on one end of the spectrum or the other, and that is just not the case, at all.

What is the best thing about being bisexual?

Having twice as many people to choose from :)

How have other people in your life reacted to your bisexuality?

I have just recently come out to everyone in my immediate family and my best friend. As of right now, those are the only people I will be telling. Three of those people knew before I even told them, and they have been exceptionally supportive, and I am so grateful for that. My parents, while not incredibly familiar with bisexuality, have made a huge effort to understand what that means for me, and have also been very loving and supportive.

What advice do you have for someone who thinks they may be bi or who is in the process of coming out as bi?

When it comes to discovering and accepting who you are, don't be afraid to prioritize yourself. It's so important to be happy with who you are, and you can't rely on other people to get you there.