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Hi, I‘m Amanda. I am Bisexual.

Hello all! My name is Amanda. I am a college student from New York. I love literature, hiking, culture, music, couture, and food. I am an intersectional feminist guru. My favorite band is Pink Floyd and my favorite designer is Elie Saab. I love learning and I am currently pre-health. As a reverent Buddhist, I love all things peaceful, calming, and natural. You can almost always find me reading a book or studying.

What being bisexual means to me

Being bisexual means embracing who I am and feeling nothing but happiness while doing so. And, by being myself, I get to share that happiness with both men and women, in whichever way I choose.

What I would like the world to know about bisexuals

We are not strange, and we are not cheaters. To anyone who has difficulty understanding bisexuality, I would advise you to reconsider how you think about sexuality. Bisexuality is not a taboo; we are real human beings who live just as anyone else. Many bisexuals have worked incredibly hard to be comfortable and powerful in the way that they approach their sexuality. We are who we are.

What was your path to a bisexual identity?

It was a long one with lots of bumpy roads. Bisexuality, to me, felt like a word that was on the tip of my tongue my entire life, but I didn't know how to say it until I was sixteen. I worried about familial reaction the most, who I didn't feel like I could trust. There was a lot of denial, confusion, and pain as I tried to discover my sexuality, but I wouldn't change that aspect of me. My path was lonely, but through positive resources, educating myself, and growth, I accepted myself. And it was a beautiful feeling.

What is the toughest thing about being bisexual?

The ignorance, I would say. It amazes me how people just hear or see something, form a judgment, and then cling to it like it's law. Self-education is so important when dealing with the bi community. If you don't understand, then ask. Research. Study. Judgments tend to be so misleading. Also, the biphobia present in the LGBTQA+ community is often shocking. From a source that is supposed to be supportive, to be so prejudice is disheartening.

What is the best thing about being bisexual?

The options! There's something to admire in everyone; bisexuality helped me realize that. It is also freeing, as I do not have to conform to a certain kind of relationship idea or style.

How have other people in your life reacted to your bisexuality?

Family is both good and bad. Some will take time, but some are very supportive. All of my friends are loving and supportive. They are often interested in my sexuality, which I admire.

What advice do you have for someone who thinks they may be bi or who is in the process of coming out as bi?

For anyone who struggles as I did with coming out, remember to put yourself first! Do not shame or discredit any part of yourself to comfort anyone else's ignorance. You should become your own bi-hero. The battle is long, but it is so worth it.

For anyone who thinks they may be bi, just do what comes naturally. Be yourself, and one day, the answer will be simple. When I was struggling, I just kept telling myself that even if I am never 100% sure or comfortable or ready, my sexuality doesn't need a label or a definition. It can be fluid. Unnamed. When in doubt, chill out.