Female

Bisexual

United States



Hi, I‘m Katie. I am Bisexual.

I'm going to Arizona State University for filmmaking. Disney World is my second home. Maybe one day I'll be able to combine the two and create something wonderful.

What being bisexual means to me

It means that I "have more options" when it comes to dating and marriage. I like guys and girls. I am attracted to guys and girls. I would marry guys and girls. And yes, I would have a threesome, but only if I found both people attractive. It's not some default setting that all bisexuals would do that, but I am comfortable with it.

What I would like the world to know about bisexuals

We're not confused, not waiting to pick a side: just attracted to guys and girls. Sometimes it's more than just guys and girls, sometimes it's two or more genders, but for me it is guys and girls. Also, we're still bisexual even when dating a guy or a girl. We don't "turn straight/gay" because of who we are dating. We're still bisexual unless otherwise stated by us.

What was your path to a bisexual identity?

One day I was like, "Hey, Natalie Dormer didn't turn me gay. I always have been interested in girls, but I still also like guys. Is that a thing?" And then I did some research, and "BAM", I found out I identify as bisexual. The more I thought about both my future and my past, the more I could see how equally guys and girls have been a part of my sexual awakening and identity. I could see myself with either a man or a woman, in bed making love, or getting married at the altar. It was a beautiful thing, and it opened up a whole part of my life that had always been there for me, waiting for me to realize its awesome potential.

What is the toughest thing about being bisexual?

Having to come out to older generations. They understand what being gay is (kind of), but bisexuality is a whole new concept to a lot of them. I haven't even told my parents in fear of explaining it incorrectly to them. It's been a slow process, but at least my friends know about it, and right now that's all that matters.

What is the best thing about being bisexual?

This is going to sound so stupid, but the options are the best part. I had always denied the part of me that also liked girls, but once I allowed it into my life, it was liberating. I felt free to openly comment on how attractive girls were, as well as guys. I can picture my future with more options than just Mr. Right. There could be a Mrs. Right as well.

How have other people in your life reacted to your bisexuality?

My friends are so great about it. It's so normalized to them that it wasn't a huge deal. Some friends had questions, but none of them shunned me because of it. I know this can happen to other people, but I have been lucky so far. We are all so comfortable with each others' sexualities that we have running inside jokes that involve our sexual orientations. I haven't told my parents yet, but I've been trying to integrate more bisexual media into everyday conversation. It's slow going, but we're getting there.

What advice do you have for someone who thinks they may be bi or who is in the process of coming out as bi?

Picture your future-self in bed and at the altar. Can you see it with either a man or a woman? Can you see yourself making love to either? Do some research. Research is your best friend. Research and hypothetical situations... Explore your sexuality, experiment, and research.