Male

Bisexual

United States



Hi, I‘m Michael. I am Bisexual.

I love the Commonwealth of Massachuetts. I was born here, I love it here, but I've traveled all over the place. I speak Russian, French and am learning Japanese - I don't have a family background with any of these languages to my knowledge, I just love languages. I have an incredible 11 year-old daughter, and although I'm no longer married (the video below is several years old now where I make reference to that), I have a fantastic relationship with my co-parent. I'm also an entrepreneur - I co-founded the Boston area's only 100% worker-owned and democratically controlled solar panel installation company, Great Sky Solar, which is specifically, as part of its mission, looking to take on women, people of color, and those who identify as queer / LGBT etc. in a big way. Queers plus solar panels = HAWT! By night I'm a slam poet that tours throughout New England - I'm even doing my first out-of-region feature in New Jersey in a few weeks, and planning a national tour for Fall of this year (2014). I love poetry, writing, and all forms of expression. My major in college was Interpersonal Communication where I got to learn about how and why we're neurologically persuaded by certain messages - media, evangelists, salespeople, politicians, propaganda, etc. - and I got to learn about happy, functional communication within relationships, families, organizations, etc. I also love dogs AND cats #biguyswouldsaythat #bijokes #icouldgobothwaysonthat Specific to being bi, I've been an activist for bisexuality for several years with the Bisexual Resource Center of Boston, which is a national organization based in Boston, and which helps support the bi community, and raises awareness about the issues we face. By being on the board and volunteering I saw, firsthand, how much pain has been caused by a rabidly binary culture that seems hellbent on erasing the fact that we exist. It has been painfully evident in my own life and work history that being a bi male is not acceptable. I'm being "worse than a faggot."

What being bisexual means to me

Being bisexual means being able to be attracted in both directions along a spectrum of multiple genders.

What I would like the world to know about bisexuals

We're human. (No, I'm serious.)

What was your path to a bisexual identity?

Wow - long story. It involves getting into, and out of, a sort of religious cult as a teenager, and then having to decide a whole lotta stuff about my life in my early 20s from scratch, from my political leanings to sexual identity.

And it only took about five seconds (or less) to figure out I was gonna be checkin' off the "bi box" though. I just needed to remember some earlier high school experiences with boys, and girls, and thought about whether or not I liked them then, and then thought about whether I would still like that now, and the answer was a resounding YES!

What is the toughest thing about being bisexual?

When you overhear people, maybe people at work, talking about "fags," and you realize they're just talking about gay guys, and if they knew you were bi, it would be a whole new level of hell for you. So you have to take a deep breath and figure out how to deal with that.

What is the best thing about being bisexual?

The best thing? I dunno - I think a lot of girls (the cool ones that are OK with it obviously) actually like me better sometimes 'cause I'm bi. They think it's like "Bi eye for the straight guy" or something. It's cute. My girlfriends have always enjoyed the fact that they can comment on a cute boy and I can be like, "Yup, he's definitely hot" and they know I mean it - I'm not just "recognizing his attractiveness" in theory. I'm really responding to it. (Or, for some interesting banter I can say, "Hell no, bad hair, what are you thinking?")

How have other people in your life reacted to your bisexuality?

Well, when I became an activist, I decided to be a pretty seriously, big-time OUT bisexual. Mostly, thanks to being in the Boston area, things are pretty liberal here, so I'm lucky. Although a bi guy-friend of mine got beat up in South Boston for being bi, which is scary to think about. But on the whole it's been supportive, albeit with some confusion about "how I work" in terms of dating. Mostl I clear that up by "killing them with kindness" and never assuming malice on the part of the person who makes some bigoted remark, when I can assume ignorance and realize that they just need to be educated.

What advice do you have for someone who thinks they may be bi or who is in the process of coming out as bi?

Check out www.biresource.net - and if there is no one else in your life that you trust and you think can be an effective ally, please, please contact the good people of the Bisexual Resource Center. You'll be glad you did!

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