Male

Bisexual

Puerto Rico



Hi, I‘m Javier. I am Bisexual.

I am a very shy person. This probably has to do with my ADD and my Asperger's, making it very hard for me to maintain a meaningful friendship. I am also a proud Puerto Rican who will study at the George Washington University. But don't get me wrong, I love to be around people, and I love to have fun. I just need some time to myself to recharge before going out with people.

What being bisexual means to me

Bisexuality, to me, means that you are open to anything that life throws at you. You can be happy with anyone who respects you for who you are as a person, and are very experienced at the art of analyzing both sides of the story. You are charismatic being that just lives life vicariously, and with no intentions of stopping any time soon.

What I would like the world to know about bisexuals

We are not greedy whores that are out having sex with everyone. If you're scared that he/she may leave you at any moment for the other gender, then you're the one who's having some relationship issues.

What was your path to a bisexual identity?

Just poking around (literally), finding out: "Oh, I like these two parts equally." I also noticed that when I saw cute looking men (strangers at malls, classmates, even friends), I would have a funny feeling (both north and south of my pants line.)

What is the toughest thing about being bisexual?

Fearing that people won't understand that you don't have to just like one gender and that you don't have to choose which one you like most.

What is the best thing about being bisexual?

Being able to be more open-minded and balanced as a person, always looking at both sides, and weighing in at all possible solutions.

How have other people in your life reacted to your bisexuality?

Cool. My parents had a hard time understanding me. My parents always said: "You're either straight or gay, there is no such thing as 'bi'."But when I came out, I totally flipped their world upside down. They asked me if I had experimented with the other gender and I lied and said that I kissed a boy in camp. Looking back at it, I wish I hadn't said that. They still have a long way to go, but at least they accept me and love me even more.

What advice do you have for someone who thinks they may be bi or who is in the process of coming out as bi?

Don't be afraid. Be truthful about yourself to others and to yourself. Be happy.