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Hi, I‘m Mantis. I am Bisexual.

I was born in and still live in Los Angeles, California. I'm studying to be a sound editor. I enjoy knitting, hiking, reading, playing computer games, burlesque dancing and singing. I'm actually a classical singer and a soprano. I took a long break after my father passed away. But I plan on going to grad school in the near future to get my MM in music performance.

What being bisexual means to me

I label myself as bisexual, but honestly, I think sexuality is so fluid that labels are a rather silly thing. I'm evolving actually. I used to prefer men, but now I'm slowly moving toward liking both men and women equally.

What I would like the world to know about bisexuals

Bisexuals exist. Yes, there are some people who say they are when they are not just to get attention, but yes, we do actually exist. And we are not monsters, either.

What was your path to a bisexual identity?

The first person I ever had a crush on was a girl, actually. I was so young though I didn't know what it was. I remember this boy in nursery school who was always trying to kiss me and I hated it. But I was really drawn to this one girl in my class and I remember being sad that I couldn't marry her since we were both girls. Funny thing is, I still remember her name.

What is the best thing about being bisexual?

I feel like sometimes I can get the best of both worlds, both physically and mentally. For example, I find men are easier to interpret mentally because they don't do "subtle." I relate to that most because I SUCK at being subtle and there is no point being subtle around men, I found, because they tend to not get it. But I also like relating to women as a woman. There is something comforting in that. Aesthetic wise, I actually prefer women's bodies. I think they are prettier to look at and have more variety. I like men's bodies as well though.

How have other people in your life reacted to your bisexuality?

I have been very lucky. I went to a high school and was in the performing arts magnet there. So no one gave a shit if you were bi or gay. I hadn't quite come out yet, but I didn't feel uneasy; I just wasn't ready. My parents were very liberal and my dad worked in show business. So he was used to being around gay people, and couldn't give a rat's ass if I was gay, bi, etc.

What advice do you have for someone who thinks they may be bi or who is in the process of coming out as bi?

Come out when you are ready. There is no hurry. Everyone has their own time and pace. There is no shame in waiting for the right moment. Follow your gut. You will know when you are ready.