United States

Hi, I‘m Alan. I am Bisexual.

Hello everyone I'm Alan. I am a music student in community college pursuing a career as an opera, concert, and recital baritone singer. I am 21 years old, and anything else I could say is that music is my passion and my reason for being. I love classical music, in particular opera, but also I like a lot of rock/metal and hip-hop/rap. Since I was a kid, I always was drawn to music and the arts. I like meeting new people even though I'm very shy and cautious at first, but if you approach me I will be okay with it. My favorite shows that I'm watching right now are Teen Wolf, Orange is the New Black, Arrow, Revenge, Blue Bloods, Weeds, Sense8, and Archer. I'm a foodie and I love to help my friends when they're in need. And finally, I want to live in New York City, which is my dream, as well making it big into the opera world.

What being bisexual means to me

To me what it means to be bisexual is to be truthful and free to one's self-identity. I often see myself attracted to women, but also to men, and instead of trying to put myself into a neat little box and cut out one part of myself to conform to what others want from me. I'd rather be truthful that I'm indeed attracted to both genders without hesitating on my preferences or choices about my sexual and romantic life.

What I would like the world to know about bisexuals

That in fact, we exist, feel, love, and live in this world. And the fact that other people deny our existence it just silly. Also, stereotypes about bisexuality are not true.

What was your path to a bisexual identity?

Since I was a little kid, I often was drawn to girls and boys, and I often thought it was just a common thing. Later in my life, I tried to repress this due to the way I was raised: in a very conservative household where looking and feeling the same way towards the same sex was wrong and immoral. During my final years in high school, I was getting to know myself better by experimenting, and saw that my attraction to both genders wasn't something unnatural or wrong, but something beautiful and truthful. Now that I'm in college, I have grown, in the past couple of years, to be comfortable with who I am and who I like, regardless of what everybody else is thinking.

What is the toughest thing about being bisexual?

Often times, I see that bisexuality is considered still a taboo thing in the 21st century. I have been confronted with prejudice and confusion regarding to my sexual orientation and it seriously sucks. Nonetheless, I always keep my head up, due to the fact that people can't comprehend it's not my problem. And, if you're truthful to yourself, nothing else matters.

What is the best thing about being bisexual?

Being able to see beauty in women and men. Love is not reserved to one gender and can be such a beautiful thing. Also, I am comfortable with myself now and feel my self-worth is higher than before. Finally, a lot of people in my life are very supporting of who I am, which is awesome.

How have other people in your life reacted to your bisexuality?

So far, so good. Important people in my life have been very helpful in accepting my true identity. One of these people is my godmother, who has taught me to believe in myself and love myself, regardless of what my preference is, or what society's view on it is. She is a very awesome lady.

What advice do you have for someone who thinks they may be bi or who is in the process of coming out as bi?

Hang on there buddy! It gets better. And don't be overwhelmed with what others think. As long you know who you are, and are true to yourself, it really doesn't matter.