United States

Hi, I‘m Beauzie. I am Bisexual.

I am a professional musician. Music has always been a big part of my life. I am married to my best friend who has always been my biggest supporter. I am liberal and a very involved and vocal activist. I am also a very active person, a surfer, skater, BMX biker, and diver, among other things. I love life and enjoy it to the fullest.

What being bisexual means to me

Bisexuality simply means that one was born with romantic and or sexual attractions to both sexes.

What I would like the world to know about bisexuals

Bisexuals, like homosexuals and heterosexuals, are born the way we are. We cannot change and have no desire to.

What was your path to a bisexual identity?

My 1st crush happened at age 11. It was on the cutest tomboy with gorgeous long hair. We met at summer camp. When I quickly discovered it was not a tomboy but a boy, it did not affect my crush at all. I think I first became aware of my bisexuality then. I would go on to have many other crushes on both girls and boys and eventually date and have relationships of various degrees from casual to full, live together as partners, with both sexes. I have my likes and am picky but other than that, the sex of the person was never a concern with me. All that was important was if I were attracted to them?

What is the toughest thing about being bisexual?

All the stereotypes and the fact that we catch negativity from both sides of the fence. And OMG, the "You are possessed of demonic spirits & jesus & prayer can redeem you from your wicked, deviant, lifestyle" lot are just so angry and hateful.

What is the best thing about being bisexual?

The fact that your experiences come from the both sides of sexuality gives one, I think, a broader, richer, experience.

How have other people in your life reacted to your bisexuality?

Some have been "So what" about it. Sadly there have been some, including close friends and even family who have written me out of their lives simply because I feel and love differently than they do.

What advice do you have for someone who thinks they may be bi or who is in the process of coming out as bi?

You have to explore your feelings carefully. With me it was not really a question. I knew how I felt because as I approached adolescence I began to develop crushes on both girls and boys. Only YOU truly know how you feel. As far as coming out. Think on this one carefully for though I truly believe coming out is best and far healthier than being closeted, everyone must consider their own situation. For instance, one may be still living at home with parents they know will kick them out because of strongly held religious beliefs. So in this instance it may be best to wait to after the person is independent before coming out. Just one example. Please know this though, closeted or out you have my best wishes, hopes, love and support for what it is worth.