United States

Hi, I‘m Stephanie. I am Bisexual.

Hi. I live in South Jersey in the USA. I am disabled and live with vacterl association and other medical issues since birth. I love to play video games, mostly Sims but also racing games, fighting games like Mortal Kombat, Zelda and more. I love to write and read. I love my family, friends and furbabies above all. I don't have a lot of friends but I have a few great ones. :)

What being bisexual means to me

For me personally, I am sexually and romantically attracted to both males and females.

What I would like the world to know about bisexuals

That bisexuals exist and are as human as everyone else. We feel the same things. Being bisexual does not mean someone will cheat or be a certain way. Personality/character and sexuality are 2 entirely different and separate things. Anyone, regardless of sexuality, can be a nice person or...not. I, and many other bisexual people, are in happily monogamous relationships.

What was your path to a bisexual identity?

At 13 I couldn't help but notice my attraction to females as well as males. I grew up being told it was wrong though. When I told my family I thought I was bisexual, my mother cried and they said it was just a "phase" and that being bisexual was worse than being gay because bi's can't "make up their mind" and are selfish and promiscuous..according to them. So I shut up about it. I'm 26 now and out and proud. It wasn't a phase. I'm still bi and I know it. Always have been, and i've finally realized it's nothing to be ashamed about.

What is the toughest thing about being bisexual?

How many people have misconceptions about it and even think it downright evil. Then again I come from a family of many people who think you have to be straight and Christian. Nothing wrong with being either but a wonderful part of life is the diversity in it and the people around us.

What is the best thing about being bisexual?

Hearing about all the other bisexual people out there finally making it known that hey, we exist. The celebrities that are out about it and aren't ashamed. The communities online, like this one, filled with nice people who understand.

How have other people in your life reacted to your bisexuality?

Depends on the person. My mother cried when I told her when I was 13. Other family members insist it was a "phase" and now that i'm married to a man they just seem to have forgotten that i'm bi or assume i'm straight now. No..i'm still bi. I lean towards women but fell in love with a man. So be it. Still bi. He knows and is fine with it. Others, like friends, are fine with it. Some are bi themselves too.

What advice do you have for someone who thinks they may be bi or who is in the process of coming out as bi?

It's ok to not be sure. Figuring out who you are doesn't happen overnight, it's a lifelong process. Take your time.

Come out when you feel safe doing so. If you don't feel safe don't feel like you have to. Come out when you're ready. It may take some people time to adjust, some people may be confused, but if they love you they'll come around in time. Just be patient. True friends and family will love you for you.