Male

Bisexual

United States



Hi, I‘m Chris. I am Bisexual.

I'm a husband and father living in Delaware, USA. By the end of this summer (2015) I hope to be a high school English teacher. I 'm also a big nerd -- love books, movies, DOCTOR WHO (which I've been a fan of for 30+ years now). I have three kids, 14, 9, 7 who live with their mom in NJ, and whom I see every other weekend. Only a few close friends and my wife know that I'm bi. I've frankly been too scared/nervous to come out fully.

What being bisexual means to me

It means that I can fall in love with, or be attracted to, any gender. I've had relationships all along the gender scale and am fully happy in my marriage to my wife. It means that I'd rather know a person than simply what's between their legs.

What I would like the world to know about bisexuals

It's NOT just a phase. I'm not "on my way" to being gay or trying on some experiments, I am a bisexual man. We experience love and heartbreak like absolutely everyone else.

What was your path to a bisexual identity?

I had first become aware in college, when I became attracted to both men and women for the first time. I just thought it may have been curiosity, but it never subsided. Eventually, I had relationships with men and women. When my first wife and I separated, I got into a relationship with a man and with him experimented the limits of my sexuality.

What is the toughest thing about being bisexual?

Still for me, is coming out to people. My family of origin doesn't know and probably won't ever, but I have close friends who I want to tell but chicken out. Bi Pride/Coming Out day this year may be a big one.

What is the best thing about being bisexual?

LOL, my wife is straight but bi-curious, so whenever we see a good looking person we can both admire together and THAT is so freeing.

How have other people in your life reacted to your bisexuality?

Those I've told, have all been wonderful.

What advice do you have for someone who thinks they may be bi or who is in the process of coming out as bi?

Oh, that's still me, I think. I'm not in a position to give anyone that kind of advice.