United States

Hi, I‘m Amy. I am Bisexual.

I am a young woman from the Chicago suburbs. I have two loving parents, two brothers and a sister. I've been dating my dream guy for three years. I attend Illinois State University and work at a library in town. I've always loved writing and reading is something I truly enjoy doing in my spare time.

What being bisexual means to me

Being bisexual means that gender is not the biggest factor in choosing who I want to be with.

What I would like the world to know about bisexuals

Bisexuals aren't indecisive nor are we selfish. We aren't bisexual because we can't decide between being sexually attracted to men or women. We aren't bisexual because we don't want to have to choose.

What was your path to a bisexual identity?

One of my best friends at the time and I had a very intimate conversation, and she made me admit my bisexuality. After this conversation, she asked me to be her girlfriend. During the year that relationship lasted, she admitted to me that she was transgender ftm. I supported him just as he supported me when I came out, and I am grateful to him for helping me realize a sexuality that I was too afraid to admit even to myself.

How have other people in your life reacted to your bisexuality?

I've been lucky to have a boyfriend and best friends who are incredibly understanding and accepting of who I am. Unfortunately, these are the only people I have been able to come out to so far.

What advice do you have for someone who thinks they may be bi or who is in the process of coming out as bi?

Embrace who you are. I tried to suppress my sexuality for years, and it only made me feel more isolated and lowered my self-esteem.