Male

Bisexual

Australia



Hi, I‘m Chris. I am Bisexual.

Hey, I live in the western suburbs of Sydney Australia, I am employed as a security officer and have worked in the industry for just over 10 years. I am a father of 3 (they live with their mum) and 1 step son, my current partner is a school teacher anf she has been incredibly supportive of me. I original am from Melbourne growing up in a pretty standard home with 2 older sisters and a younger brother. I married at 19 and seperated at 29, there were a lot of different reasons for that one of which was my sexuality, thinking I was gay as I did not feel at the time bisexuality was real and plausable. After a few same sex encounters and finding myself still attracted to the opposite sex I began to feel confused and depressed again. I thought oh fuck! what have I done I have abandoned my kids for selfish gain. So I went searching for the reasons behind my feelings went through a fair bit of councilling and therapy and reading blogs etc . I only wish that I could remember this one blog I read that just made my brain click and I felt such comfort and peace and acceptance of myself as I for the first time saw myself as bisexual, I didnt have to stress wether I was gay or straight, I was me. I accepted me. Now nearly 2 years later I love it, I am so content within myself in regards to my sexuality, My partner supports me too, accepting I can more "feminine" ( she loves that I love shopping for clothes n shoes etc lol ) even though I appear so "butch" I guess ....I dont know about this to be honest but if it helps someone then thats a good thing....

What being bisexual means to me

For me its fresh air, its comfort and peace. I could walk down the street and see a chick and think oh she is good looking and seconds later see a bloke and think the same (but not always for the same reasons) and be ok with that to not stress and think oh what am I...well not anymore....Its acceptance of self and that is freedom

What I would like the world to know about bisexuals

ahhh they are real for one ... and we are not greedy and I guess you dont need to worry that we want to hump all of you I myself am monogamas (think thats how ya spell it) and from what I hear and read most of the Bi community is too

What was your path to a bisexual identity?

Grew up in a guess a religious home always felt different had my first same sex experience rather earlier and battled with my sexuality for most of my life I couldnt be anything but straight so I got married and had kids as that was the "right" thing to do and well that didnt work out really coz the whole likin the same sex hadnt been resolved and so I wemt in persuit of that but then I was like far out now I likin the opposite sex aswell....it had me quite flustered until I read someones experience and I look into the whole bisexuality and it just all clicked into place and I felt such inner peace knowing that that was who i.was I am a Bisexual and thats ok its one thing I can tick off that I dont need to stress about no more

What is the toughest thing about being bisexual?

toughest thing honestly is how I should look I like puttin on the makeup and womens clothes but I also like to look tough and ruggerd.....its like tryin to be a marshmellow and a rock at the same time lol if that makes sense...I dont know but thats my experience

What is the best thing about being bisexual?

The best thing ummmm dont know I dont think we could weigh things up into best or worse or good and bad... for me it just is and thats probably the best thing

How have other people in your life reacted to your bisexuality?

most people dont care, my gay friends are like "watever" I feel I have lost a few but that doesnt bother me, dont like me cool thats ok.

What advice do you have for someone who thinks they may be bi or who is in the process of coming out as bi?

be patient and I guess cautious I kinda rushed out and said look at me I am gay and then I was like no hang on thats not quite it ...I am actually bi and so some people were like oh man he is still confused....but I am not at all not anymore I Bi am I am proud to be Bi