United States

Hi, I‘m Seva. I am Bisexual.

I'm a multi-media artist (seraphoid.deviantart.com), and love mythology, philosophy, food, giving, making others happy, martial arts and video games. My background is Puerto Rican, but I am Texas-grown and suburb-raised in an (unfortunately) conservative household. Fortunately, I broke the mold and became more openminded with age. I started questioning my sexuality at 12, but looking back I had a feeling at 5 that I was different. I still denied it during my "emo" phase of Junior High and finally accepted it at the end of High School. I dated a bisexual male at 18 (my first relationship ever), then moved on after things didn't working out (ex had traumatic issues irreconcilable with our needs and we grew apart). Happy to say I met a wonderful man afterwards! He accepts me 100% and lets me be me; encourages me to branch out and expand my horizons. I came out to my Mom in May 2014. Me and her agreed not to talk about it afterwards. I hope to be married to a man and have a wonderful family someday and teach my childrean to love whom they please.

What being bisexual means to me

Love transcends and conquers all! You love the person (with or without their physical/mental gender). It is possible for me to be in love 100% with either a man or a woman.

What was your path to a bisexual identity?

Still on it, the emotional/mental side is developing well but physical knowledge is lacking (but I have my boyfriend's support and counsel, and my inner wisdom to help out).

What is the toughest thing about being bisexual?

For me, polyamory - Why do I fall for one person then another at the same time (I default to my Primary and I am extremely loyal/dedicated).

What is the best thing about being bisexual?

Being able to love a wide variety of people.

How have other people in your life reacted to your bisexuality?

SUPER suprised, caught off guard.
'You better NOT like ladies. " said a guy who was interested in me.
Assuming I like them when I don't.

What advice do you have for someone who thinks they may be bi or who is in the process of coming out as bi?

Find out by looking at HOW you care about the people you care about (romatic/platonic/sexual/attached feelings) and go from there.