Female

Bisexual

United States



Hi, I‘m Xienna. I am Bisexual.

I'm a singer/songwriter. I love music, especially rock and pop. I collect childhood toys and porcelain dolls. I love social networking, making digital art, acting, talking to friends, listening to music and writing poetry.

What being bisexual means to me

Being bisexual means that it doesn't matter to you what's between somebody's legs, love is love. Being bisexual means you're able to give and receive love to both men and women, be in relationships with both men and women, even be married to either a man or a woman. To me, bisexuality is the orientation of opportunities, because if you're bisexual, you have a lot more than people belonging to other orientations.

What I would like the world to know about bisexuals

We DO exist. I'm living proof of that and so are many others, and also that all the stereotypes out there about bisexuals are completely untrue. There's even an experiment that was done that proves people can in fact be attracted to both sexes and it's a beautiful thing. We aren't greedy, confused or sluts, we're just open-minded, beautiful individuals.

What was your path to a bisexual identity?

I've known I was bisexual since elementary school, I didn't admit it to myself until years later, but all that matters to me is that I was able to do so. You can't admit it to anyone else until you admit it to yourself. That is very important if you're going to live proudly as a bisexual. Here's a short version of my self discovery. I was coming home from school and saw this teenage girl walking from school with her friend, and I couldn't stop looking at her, she was beautiful. I got this tingly feeling in my stomach and knew from then on that the way I'd feel about girls would be different for the rest of my life and with time I was perfectly okay with that. I always felt like something was missing and now that I found it, I couldn't be happier.

What is the toughest thing about being bisexual?

The toughest thing about being bisexual would definitely have to be all the stereotypes you come across about your orientation and you can't help but be offended when people talk about the whole orientation like it's all bad just because they don't understand it. People are quick to judge and that's always hard to deal with. Also, the lack of respect we receive, such as being told our orientation doesn't exist. That hurts, people don't think we have feelings just like anyone else, but we do. The point is, either way we're gonna be happy with ourselves. Period.

What is the best thing about being bisexual?

The best thing about being bisexual is the kind of person the orientation leads you to become. I truly believe being bisexual makes you a better individual because it makes you more accepting, loving, understanding and truthful, which is the type of person everyone should want to be. It also makes you a lot more open-minded and lovable, which are also important qualities. The possibilities are absolutely endless when you're bisexual.

How have other people in your life reacted to your bisexuality?

Everybody I've come out to has been absolutely wonderful about it. They're completely understanding and accepting, I couldn't ask for better people in my life. I know I couldn't live without them.

What advice do you have for someone who thinks they may be bi or who is in the process of coming out as bi?

I'm not gonna lie, it can be a hard process to go through, one of the toughest you'll go through. One of the most important things is to first come out to yourself, because you really can't come out to everyone else without being sure of yourself. Second, just trust yourself and the people you've surrounded yourself with. You'll know if they're the right people if they stick by you know matter what, and if not, confide in your own bisexual community and they will most certainly be there for you. It's always good to know people who are the same orientation as you because they'll be the first ones to understand your struggles and even help you through them. I wouldn't survive without the people who are on my side. Just know that it's perfectly okay to be happy and proud of yourself and who you are. You should never be ashamed of being able to love both men and women, because it's really a beautiful thing, and it means you're a good person. So even if people aren't so okay with it, which can happen, just be strong and confident in yourself, because you're a beautiful, strong, confident, good individual, who just so happens to be able to give love to everyone. Remember, if no one else is, I'm certainly on your side.