Male

Bisexual

United States



Hi, I‘m John. I am Bisexual.

Hi, well, okay then, about me, um, okay.. I can't remember the first time I finally and officially "came out" as bisexual. I remember making an announcement on my Facebook page about two years ago and nobody seemed to notice. I mean I wasn't looking for applause or anything but at least some sort of recognition - geeze! I know that, for a fact, I did "come out" way before that, but I really thought I was making it official two years ago for all the world to see on the ridiculously silly world of social media.. I got all caught in Pride day or something, i have no idea. Anyway - As far as my sexuality, I am who am and my heart takes me where it takes me. I don't believe it's up for me to decide which gender I will eventually fall in love with, color me crazy but wherever my heart belongs, it belongs... It hurts me the most when I have to constantly debate or argue with my gay friends that my sexuality REALLY DOES exist. If I have to hear, "you're in denial" one more time I'm throwing a drink at somebody. I don't quite understand why it's so difficult for folks to understand it's possible to be both sexually and emotionally attracted to the more than one gender. I've never asked them to explain to me what makes "you who you are," so why is it necessary for me to do so? I'm tired of the B in LGBT being silent or a whisper - we too have voices and this same thing many other people on the planet have: it's a simple (yet sometimes very complex) four letter word "Love." Forgive me for the uber cheese.

What being bisexual means to me

Being me. :)

What I would like the world to know about bisexuals

We exist.

We love.

We feel.

We are capable of monogamous relationships.

... And we're throwing all the other BS in that river you keep accusing us of being in, that one called "DENIEL" - eat me.




What was your path to a bisexual identity?

Not so much a path, but two different directions that I'm comfortable through.

What is the toughest thing about being bisexual?

As I mentioned above - it's bizarre because too often people are prejudiced against people like me within a community I'm supposed to be a part of (remember the "B" I mentioned in the whisper?)

How have other people in your life reacted to your bisexuality?

Surprisingly curious, accepting but some can be quite annoying with the "denial" thing. It also irks me dealing with the folks who insist they think they know you're "gay" and you're not. That drives me insane.

What advice do you have for someone who thinks they may be bi or who is in the process of coming out as bi?

You'll know when it's the right time and it does get better :)