Male

Bisexual

United States



Hi, I‘m Ian-Paul. I am Bisexual.

I am a bisexual man, father of 3 beautiful babies, going through a divorce. I was born in Santiago, Chile. I arrived to the United States back in May of 1981, when I was 6 years of age. I am fluent in both English & Spanish, and know a bit of French (meaning more than most people who claim to know the language) but I wouldn't classify myself fluent. I grew up in the Seattle area (Shoreline, Washington). I've lived twice in Portland, Oregon, each time for about a year; this was back when I was in late teens & early twenties or so. I come from a mostly liberal family, whom for the most part is accepting. My father is gay, and I also have a gay cousin. My only sibling, my brother, whom is straight, met his beautiful wife at a gay club (up in Seattle, 'Neighbours'). Since April of 2012, I have been living in San Jose, California. I love the weather here... though I do love hot weather, the heat does get a little old some times.

What being bisexual means to me

I like the ladies slightly more than the guys, but I love the LGBT community and lifestyle.

What I would like the world to know about bisexuals

That deep inside; when you set aside religious beliefs and admit to your humanity... that I am sure most people are naturally bisexuals. LOL

What was your path to a bisexual identity?

Over a bet. LOL
A good friend, who is gay, betted that I couldn't get this guy or that I wouldn't have the guts to do anything with a guy, so I took the challenge... I won, and found I enjoyed his company. Though we were never officially in a relationship, I dated this guy for quite a few months.

Next guy I ended up in a relationship for about 3 years. It's now been over 10 years since I was with him. He was my first guy love, and he will always hold a very special place in my heart. He is now happily married to another guy who seems to be a wonderful person... I'm kind'a jealous... of my ex. LOL

Soon after my first real 'gay' relationship... I cam out my mom as being 'gay' (I went through a 'gay' phase). I wasn't scared, but more embarrassed. She immediately told me that she knew. I asked her why she never said anything; she very lovingly replied back that it was not her job for my to come out.

I ended up dating a few guys, was in 3 real 'gay' relationships, when I realized that I was still VERY attracted to the ladies. Since then I have dated both. :)

What is the toughest thing about being bisexual?

Potential relationships... many find it very hard to accept that I wouldn't want the other sex from the person I am with.

As I see it... if you are straight, you will be attracted to others of the opposite sex, this does not mean you cannot have a meaningful and monogamous relationship.... same with gays. ;)

What is the best thing about being bisexual?

I'm attracted to both sexes... duh!!!! ;)

How have other people in your life reacted to your bisexuality?

For the most part accepting. :)

What advice do you have for someone who thinks they may be bi or who is in the process of coming out as bi?

Just Do It!!!

However hard it is and any reactions; at least you will get it off your chest, closets cleaned and open... and the bad of coming out ('if' any) shall pass. In today's world, you'll be surprised how accepting people really are, even now with many religious people.

Just Do It!!!