Male

Queer

United States



Hi, I‘m John. I am Queer.

I'm currently living in Brooklyn, NY and own a small video production company in NYC. I spend a lot of time in my studio but have a lot of interests NY gives me the opportunity to explore. I love music, books, movies, the theater, anything creative and artistic. I paint, sculpt, and photography is a major interest. I'm always somewhere looking for something new. You can find me at the Met, in Chinatown, or making my way through the 10 million people that live here. I'm a total urbanite, love cities and everything they have to offer. I'm very involved with various organizations that are working to push for acceptance of bisexuals as well as giving support to those who are coming out as bi or coming to terms with their bisexuality. ,

What being bisexual means to me

It means being completely open and comfortable with who and what I am. Its the ability to look at all people completely instead of limiting yourself to one gender. Its the ability to be with/love people of either gender and know it's natural and nothing to be ashamed of or feel guilty about.

What I would like the world to know about bisexuals

We live "normal" lives and its not all about sex. There are millions of us, we mean you no harm, we are only here to observe your ways. Oh wait, thats a sci fi movie I saw. Well, there are millions of us and we're just like everyone else. And no, we don't need to choose straight or gay, we are what we are and very happy with that.

What was your path to a bisexual identity?

I realized very early I was bi (14) and it was a rough path trying to accept and deal with who I was and try to fit in with the "normal" people. The teen years are tough enough without adding being bi to the mix. It got much easier in my 20s and 30s and now its just something thats there, that I don't really think about much. Its like hair color, height, eye color, its just something thats a part of you and that you're born with.

What is the toughest thing about being bisexual?

I don't find anything tough about it anymore. Its no tougher than being straight really, it just is. The saddest thing though is bisexual women are much more accepted by society then men are. Two women together are "hot", two men are gay or "disgusting". Small minds make for a tougher fight for acceptance.

What is the best thing about being bisexual?

You have a lot of options!!! I kiss boys. I kiss girls.The best thing is you don't look at people with preconceived notions of who they are in terms of partnership qualities, everyone is equal.

How have other people in your life reacted to your bisexuality?

Some negative reaction, mostly positive. The ones who reacted with negativity are no longer in my life, such as certain friends who decided that being bi changed who I fundamentally am. I'm completely out to everyone and have no desire to ever hide who I am.

What advice do you have for someone who thinks they may be bi or who is in the process of coming out as bi?

Take it slow, there is no rush. Find someone you can trust to help you navigate your path. Get involved with social and support groups. Meet accepting people, listen to their stories and write your own.