United States

Hi, I‘m Dhylles. I am Bisexual.

Happy New Beginings from Dhylles Davis! My name is Dhylles and I am 37 years old and married to an amazing man who is absolutely everything I wanted and prayed for in a husband. He knew I was bisexual even before I was able to admit it to myself so when I finally came out and told him, he hugged me and congratulated me in speaking my truth. I was so afraid of being bisexual because of the beliefs I was raised with and feared the judgement of my family. I am happy to be free of the bondage I put myself in due to denying who I am and in living my life to the fullest being a bisexual woman. I am very fortunate to have the love and support of an amazing husband, great friends and certain family members who chose to still love me for me. It was very important for me to be honest with myself especially in my profession of being a life coach and motivational speaker. I needed to walk and live in my truth as well as embrace and accept all of me. I am proud to say I found my peace, happiness and freedom in being a bisexual woman and I am no longer afraid of ashamed of who I am.

What being bisexual means to me

Bisexual means to me being able to truly love people unconditionally for who they are and what they bring into my life and feel the need to love them for gender, race, religion or how they express themselves. Bisexual means to be being able to walk this life with confidence, pride, honesty and determination in being the best ME there is and accepting other for being the best HIM or HER they can be. It is demonstrating unconditional love, support and respecting my fellow human being who is imperfect with flaws as much as I am imperfect with flaws where we can learn from each other.

What I would like the world to know about bisexuals

We are human beings with feelings and the right to express ourselves in any positive way we feel comfortable. We are not an outcast and we are not mentally ill or have "issues" because we choose to follow our hearts and love openly and honestly. I would like the world to know that being bisexual is being able to walk in truth daily and have no fear of life because we choose to live and no longer exist or hide from ourselves and the world.

What was your path to a bisexual identity?

My path was being honest with myself that eventhough I am married to a man and dated men all of my life that I was attracted to women and had to come to terms with owning the acceptance within myself of being bisexual and wanting to not be fearful of taking the opportunity of being with a woman. My path was to go back into my childhood and remembering kissing little girls as well as little boys around my neighborhood as well as in school and knowing from the time I was a little girl I was bisexual. My path was honoring and respecting myself enough in knowing that God still loves me and I am worthy and valuable of being happy in being a bisexual woman no matter what others had to say. I dediced to love myself regardless!

What is the toughest thing about being bisexual?

My experiences that were the toughest was meeting geniune women who are honest and real about their attraction to women and being led on to believe it was something they truly wanted to experience and explore.

What is the best thing about being bisexual?

The best thing about being bisexual for me is having a partner who understand and accepts this is who you are and supports you 150%. Having a partner that you can communicate and share your experiences and desires with.

How have other people in your life reacted to your bisexuality?

Some are okay with it because it does not affect them and others are uncomfortable with it but choose to respect me as the person they love and know.

What advice do you have for someone who thinks they may be bi or who is in the process of coming out as bi?

Advice I would give someone is to trust their feelings because they probably are and to be honest with themselves about what they are feeling and don't try to hide it or sugar coat what they are feeling. Know that they are still worthy and valuable and most importantly human as well as normal and never feel as if though you are an outcast because of thinking or feeling you are bisexual.