United States

Hi, I‘m Tyler. I am Bisexual.

I am Tyler and I'm 19. I'm from Houston, TX and have recently moved to North Dakota with my family for work and to start fresh in life. I'm a nice guy who loves helping people and is easy to get along with. I'm getting ready to start school that will hopefully turn into something in graphic design and animation. I'm old fashioned when it comes to technology and seem to be stuck in the 90's according to my brothers. I have a collection of audio cassettes and film camera. I love to draw and am amazing at it. Also I love taking pictures on said cameras. I'm considered smart and there isn't often a problem I can't solve. I'm not athletic but love doing anything outside like camping, hiking, biking, swimming and going to the beach. I also love watching movies, tv, and theater productions. I have earn my Eagle Scout, the highest award in Boy Scout, and am proud of that achievement. In general, I am said to be smart in everything I do and love to learn new knowledge.

What being bisexual means to me

Being able to love anyone based on the person's personality and not on gender.

What I would like the world to know about bisexuals

It exist for one thing and that it's not a phase or stage. Also that it is not 50/50 attraction to both genders. Don't base your knowledge on what you think, base it on facts. We are people like you that have and want the same desires out of life (love and happiness), we just got a bigger pool to choice from. We are not freaks or abnormal. There really isn't anything weird in this world, just different from you.

What was your path to a bisexual identity?

At first when I was 13, I started to have attractions to guys and at the time didn't even know bisexuality existed or gay for that matter. When I found out it did, I figured I must be gay because I seemed to have more attraction to guys then girls. At 15, I had a crush on a guy and girl at the same time and that when I knew I was bi. That when I accepted it and have been that way ever since.

What is the toughest thing about being bisexual?

not being accepted for who I am and my romantic attractions to my friends.

What is the best thing about being bisexual?

Being about to love anyone I see any day based on the person, not what's in their pants. I think being bisexual give me insight to both side of orientation (straight/gay) and gender and have more fullfilling relationships and friendships.

How have other people in your life reacted to your bisexuality?

My friends have been accepting and don't care that I am a bisexual. My friend Trevor told me "that it does not make me a different person" and how better would the world be if everyone thought like that? My mom already knew and is been as accepting as everyone else in my life.

What advice do you have for someone who thinks they may be bi or who is in the process of coming out as bi?

Take your time and only come out when you're ready. Don't feel rushed and you'll know when its time. It is hard the first time but after that its so much easier. when you do, your life will be 1000X better. It has been for me and most people are accepting but I know some out there aren't and if they really care about you, they'll become accepting or they're not real friends and you should surround yourself with people who do. Keep God with you and your life will work out. God loves all of us and wants us to be happy. He made us perfect just the way we are. With all the variety in the world, why wouldn't he. Your happiness should be your number 1 priority not what others think or what they want you to be. You are w person just like everyone else on Earth, having and wanting the same desires as everyone does, they just might be different than the norm.