United States

Hi, I‘m Lew. I am Bisexual.

I'm an expat Southerner, now living on the northern edge of Manhattan. I work as a college English professor, and as the office manager for the Religious Institute ( After many, many years, I'm completing my PhD in English Literature, exploring the late-Victorian decadent poet John Gray, a friend of Oscar Wilde, who became a Roman Catholic priest in Edinburgh, Scotland. In my spare time I enjoy the opera, evenings out with friends, and exploring the city I love so much!

What being bisexual means to me

Being bi means being free... A friend once asked me "How can you be bi?" I asked her "How can you NOT be bi?" That kind of sums it up.

What I would like the world to know about bisexuals

Bisexuals really aren't like everyone else, but that's a good thing. We have a very unique perspective to offer... on everything... and we're not afraid to share it. Conformity is really kind of boring, and everyone else really isn't like everyone else, either.

What was your path to a bisexual identity?

Well, I always knew... but it took me until right after college to put everything together. I had a fairly traditional dating experience in high school, but deep down always knew that things were different.

What is the toughest thing about being bisexual?

Dealing with the Same. Damn. Stereotypes. And. Prejudices. Every. Damn. Day.

What is the best thing about being bisexual?

The lemon bars.

How have other people in your life reacted to your bisexuality?

Generally positive, with the exception of my family, who were baffled.

What advice do you have for someone who thinks they may be bi or who is in the process of coming out as bi?

Find your community and your tribe. Come out when you're ready, and not before. It is YOUR sexuality, and you get to choose who knows what and when they know it.