Female

Bisexual

Belgium



Hi, I‘m Julie. I am Bisexual.

Hey everyone, I'm Julie. I am a 25 year old woman with a passion for psychology, art, singing (freestyle, not professional), astrology and LGBTQ+ issues. One of my passions will soon become my profession, as I am a psychology student who's soon going to be graduating! I consider myself an outgoing introvert or ambivert, since I both love the occassional me-time to think about life, and talking or having fun with friends. I'm a total dreamer as well, and that reflects in my love for music that makes me space out, like dreampop (you should totally check out Grimes' Genesis!) or some hippie music like The Doors. Weirdly, I also really enjoy the more heavy music genres, like Nirvana. It all depends on my mood...

What being bisexual means to me

The possibility of being attracted to men, women and maybe even other genders. Not just sexually, but also romantically. I consider bisexuality as dynamic and fluid, as my attractions can somewhat shift over time.

What I would like the world to know about bisexuals

We exist, it's not just a phase or an "experiment". I've known I am bi since I was 17 and despite not having had numerous (sexual and/or romantic) relationships with women AND currently being in a relationship with a straight man, I still identify as bi.


What was your path to a bisexual identity?

I remember actually asking myself if I was a lesbian when I was just a kid, because I liked to draw and have always prefered to draw women/girls. I came to the conclusion I wasn't, because I always fell in love with boys. Back then, I didn't know yet that there was something such as "bisexual", so I just assumed I was straight. Still as a kid - soon to be teenager - I became very curious about anything LGBT. I was fascinated when I saw music videos on MTV that featured lesbians, and read a book about teenage lesbian love. I didn't question my sexuality yet at that point though. I first started to think I might be "bicurious" when I was 17. I had my first relationship then, with a guy, and when we watched "Transformers" together, I felt aroused by actress Megan Fox. I realised that most girls my age wanted to be like women they found attractive, but that it was so much more than that in my case. I told one of my good friends about my curiosity, and she revealed that she was also bicurious. We started exploring our curiosity by going on online dating sites or social network websites. My curiosity and desires started to evolve gradually: at first I only wanted to kiss girls, then I wanted to have sex with girls, and at last, I was at the point I was actually open for being in a romantic relationship with a girl. It wasn't until I was 20 that I had my first experience with a woman though. When I desperately fell in love with her, I knew for sure that I was bi!

What is the toughest thing about being bisexual?

I am going to be real honest here. For me personally, I really struggle with monogamy. I am in a long term monogamous relationship with a man, but also desire being with women romantically and sexually. An open relationship could be a solution to this "problem", but I feel like non-monogamy won't suit me, since I'm pretty jealous...So yeah, I'm quite divided when it comes to this aspect of my bisexuality.

What is the best thing about being bisexual?

The ability to love and be attracted to both male and female qualities. It feels so much more rich to me that I have the opportunity to be attracted to more than just the opposite sex. Loving a man is entirely different than loving a woman, but it's both so great!

How have other people in your life reacted to your bisexuality?

My parents were not all too happy when they found out I was bi. They didn't understand how I could even know, because when I told them, I hadn't had any experience with girls yet. They tried to come up with things in order to prove me wrong. I for instance remember them saying "I read on wikipedia that people realize their sexuality already on ... age, so you can't be". When I had my first girl-girl romance going, my parents didn't like it at all. They claimed they had no problem with me being with a girl, but with the fact that she had a boyfriend (they were both bi and in an open relationship). I knew this was bullshit when I heard that my mom had secretly begged my brother to make me fall for boys again.

My friends were luckily a lot more supportive of my sexual orientation than my parents, and I especially feel supported by my LGBT-friends. My brother, who is gay and pretty much my best friend, is also very supportive.

What advice do you have for someone who thinks they may be bi or who is in the process of coming out as bi?

Don't let anyone else define you! If you identify as bi, it is valid no matter what other people claim or have to say about it.