Trans man

Bisexual

United States



Hi, I‘m Pauli. I am Bisexual.

I was born in Guadalajara, Mexico and moved to the United States in 2011. Although I dislike the current government, I have a great appreciation and respect for the Obamas. Even though I miss my country, I believe it’s thanks to the inclusiveness here that I was able to relize my sexuality. Apart from my love for the community, I also enjoy doing gymnastics, astrophysics (and science in general), languages, reading and research, and social sciences. Dogs have a special place in my heart. I have a twink sister and 2 other older sisters and two dedicatedly parents. Although my family isn’t the most accepting, I’m able to live a happy queer life outise of my home. I hope I can move away to university next year so I can live and open life and begin my transition into the person I know I truly am.

What being bisexual means to me

Being bi means I can love a lot more. It opens up a whole world of opportunities. It’s truly wonderful. Also our flag is cute.

What I would like the world to know about bisexuals

Bisexuality is not all the same. It isn’t always 50/50. Some bi people are more attracted to one gender than another. And that’s completely fine, we’re still bi! And it isn’t a phase either, nor are we confused. You’ll also find that bis come in different shapes, sizes, colours, backgrounds, lives. And that’s what makes the community wonderful.

What was your path to a bisexual identity?

One day in the 8th grade, a sudden heavy rock fell on me and I realised that I thought that guys AND girls are cute. My first reaction was denial, and the second one was fear. I was afraid of how my future would look like. I knew being part of the LGBT+ community is though because we still face discrimination, and I didn’t want to live in misery because of homophobia. I kept telling myself that I wasn’t, but in the end I came to terms with it. It was a scary process to come out to my close friend. Luckily, I faced nothing but acceptance from them. From my twin sister, I wasn’t so lucky. I haven’t told anyone else in my immediate family because of that. But today I’m proudly bi, even if I wave the flag inside a closet for now.

What is the toughest thing about being bisexual?

The misconceptions and underrepresentation. Sometimes I say that I’m gay instead of bi because of the fear of having to explain or validate my sexuality. It’s also rare that I see an explicit bi character in media. Sometimes the LGBT+ community forgets about us but we’re still here and loud.

What is the best thing about being bisexual?

So many options! You will almost never know the feeling of not finding a gender attractive. You can’t appreocate the aesthetics of the world more as a bi.

How have other people in your life reacted to your bisexuality?

Generally, good! A lot of my classmates know what bisexuality is and they’re accepting of it, nodding in agreement when I tell them. However, I have faced weird looks from my twin sister and the occasional inappropriate joke from straight men.

What advice do you have for someone who thinks they may be bi or who is in the process of coming out as bi?

If you think you’re bi, you probably are. You grew up thinking you were straight and never really realised your attraction to another gender. But once it hits you, don’t deny it. Do research to see if you’re bi, or maybe another’s sexuality that involves attraction to more than one gender. Find a label that best fits you and learn about the community. As for coming out, research will help you explain to people your sexuality so it’s easier for them to understand and accept you.