Male

Bisexual

Ireland



Hi, I‘m Nuno. I am Bisexual.

I'm a south European lad who currently lives in Dublin, Ireland. I love travelling and check different historical sights (and Europe is great for that ;) ) Love a good swim at the beach, joined with a good book and the good company of friends. I try to keep fit going to the gym or doing some fitness. For relaxation, drawing and painting are definitely my yoga. I work in the Animation industry, developing concept art for animations and advertising.

What being bisexual means to me

It means I'm more open to peoples different emotions and desires. I like men, I like women, that doesn't mean I'm sexually attracted to all of them. I don't judge them. I don't believe that in this world there is only black and white. There is a full scale of colors, tastes, smells and experiences and we shouldn't be afraid to live outside of a box. If that's not an option, than I invite everyone to come in and have a chat with me inside that same box. It's clean, with loads of space and there is always a bottle of wine, or a couple of beers I don't mind to share.

What I would like the world to know about bisexuals

We are like everyone else and I think we understand people's problems even more than any other person. They label us confused people...we are just confused because no one seems to understand our points of view when we are actually just more opened to different emotional/sexual experiences and our right to choose and change opinions is fair enough as any other decision in life.

What was your path to a bisexual identity?

It was long and difficult...sometimes confusing and lonely...it seems most people don't get you. But here I am and happy to find like-minded people.

What is the toughest thing about being bisexual?

Having people constantly comparing you to a sexual machine (and don't get me wrong, I enjoy sex a lot, I'm just not defined by that), or just insisting on you to choose between gay or straight. There is a big struggle to put labels on bis and not only from "straight" people, but also from the gay community (unfortunately).

What is the best thing about being bisexual?

Being able to understand more your friends problems and anxieties. Being able to love in different ways, because we are all different human beings with different sexual behaviors and emotional intimacies. Being bi you are more open minded and with less prejudice.

How have other people in your life reacted to your bisexuality?

Some people reacted with disbelief, others thought it was a "cool" thing to be bi, others thought I was more sexually and emotionally available because of being bi (which is completely wrong - actually quite the opposite), others stopped being close friends, others question your love decisions. Although it might seem bad, it isn't. I had friends (male and females) opening about being bi-curious and their sexual encounters confiding in me their struggles. And you will always have those good friends who don't even care about your sexual orientation and they don't bother asking you million questions about it.. Those are the friends you can count on, 'cause they like you for the person you truly are. :)

What advice do you have for someone who thinks they may be bi or who is in the process of coming out as bi?

You don't have to prove anything to anyone. you tell whoever you want and you are free to choose if you want to tell it, or not. Just don't hurt or fool anyone in the process.