United States

Hi, I‘m Reese. I am Bisexual.

My name is Reese, and I live in the midwestern part of the United States. I sell e-cigarettes for a living, though I wish I could write full time, but I love my job so no complaints here. I’m 25 years old, I’m married to a wonderful man who is also my best friend. My likes include movies, anime, books, puzzles, writing, and music. I mostly spend my time watching Netflix and sleeping.

What being bisexual means to me

Being bi is who I am, its just one of many parts of my identity. Its hard for me to fully put into words, but it means that I can love any person that has love in their heart, too.

What I would like the world to know about bisexuals

We are not confused and we are not half and half. We are a whole other type of person. We love both genders.

What was your path to a bisexual identity?

When i was 15, i thought it was just curiosity so i tucked it away until i turned 24. I woke up at 6:30am and finally decided to admit out loud that I was bi. I woke up my husband crying and told him the news. He held me and said, "Its about time you figured it out." He knew it from the moment we started dating and he's been incredibly supportive. I'm finally in a place where I can be happy being me for once.

What is the toughest thing about being bisexual?

The confusion at the beginning (especially if you suffer from anxiety AND depression) wondering whether or not you’re gay and you’re just lying to yourself. Also, there are people who understand being gay but there are others who don’t get being bi. “Just pick one.” I wish others knew that it doesn't work that way.

What is the best thing about being bisexual?

Being open to love whoever you want no matter who they are.

How have other people in your life reacted to your bisexuality?

My husband was happy that I finally started talking about it. My parents were comfortably casual, which was what I expected from them: "Oh, okay cool. How was your day?" I couldn't have asked for a better response from them. I have a friend in the LGBTQ (and so on) community who was THRILLED when he heard the news and couldn't have been happier for me. I did get a less than...lovely response. It was a person who doesn't really understand the homosexual/bisexual (and so on) community. They don't hate me or judge me for being this way, but they questioned me. They went on with the "what if" this and "what if" that because I'm married to a man. It hurt a lot being questioned by someone i care about, but they are still in my life and it will stay that way.

What advice do you have for someone who thinks they may be bi or who is in the process of coming out as bi?

It’s who you’ve always been, don’t fight it. It’s a good thing because it is who you are. It’s not shameful to have feelings for both genders or to be sexually attracted to both genders. It’s scary as hell but if you take the leap, you give yourself that chance to be happy. Embrace the love in your heart and don't worry about what others will think of you.