United States

Hi, I‘m VanessaTheVivacious. I am Bisexual.

Being able to be myself as a Bi person is like coming up for air. Turning 34 soon; I’m married to a man whom I came out to before we got married and he has been so supportive from day 1. He is one of the few people that know.. but every day I get stronger and closer to telling my family. I enjoy being a musician, singing, fur mommy to 3 beautiful little dogs and one step daughter. I hope to embrace our LGBTQ community and help advocate for change.

What being bisexual means to me

Being bi is the strength and courage to find one’s true self. We embrace our true nature and
never deny ourselves what is true inside.

What I would like the world to know about bisexuals

Bis put their pants on one leg at a time just like everyone else. When we share with you who we are, don’t say “it’s just a phase”. We get tired of hearing that.

What was your path to a bisexual identity?

My first kiss was from my female next door neighbor when we were kids. I realized my feelings but felt culturally pressured to be straight so I suppressed my true self for years. After many years, I found myself in situations where my bisexuality re-emerged. After I met my husband, as friends, I decided to share my secret with my best friend and he has supported me ever since.

What is the toughest thing about being bisexual?

The idea of losing friends, family and church buddies because they can’t see beyond what they think.

What is the best thing about being bisexual?

Feeling like you can breathe and be who you want to be both inside and out.

How have other people in your life reacted to your bisexuality?

With love, thus far.

What advice do you have for someone who thinks they may be bi or who is in the process of coming out as bi?

Make a few LGBTQ friends. These people will be the support you need, when you need them. Don’t worry if you do not fit the LGBTQ stereotypes you see in the world.. be yourself! How can that be wrong ? Love yourself.. be true.. be Vivacious.