United States

Hi, I‘m Kayla. I am Bisexual.

I'm a student at Pasco Hernando State College with ambitious career goals of receiving an International Law Degree for Human Rights from either Yale or Harvard Law. I have 3 beautiful young boys and my fiance is a stay at home dad who couldn't be more accepting and open minded of life and how we as humans choose to live it. I love learning and reading books, I will always ask questions and never stop asking why.

What being bisexual means to me

Being bisexual is about falling in love with a persons' soul (their true self), while disregarding the form of their body.

What I would like the world to know about bisexuals

We don't all like threesomes and can be committed to a monogamous relationship.

What was your path to a bisexual identity?

My mother found out I was bisexual when I was 12, the principle caught my girlfriend and I kissing in the chorus room and he called my mother. When I arrived home I got the usual religious scriptures condemning same sex from both parents and was made to feel as if I was wrong for feeling the way I do. I dated men from then on but still kept a hidden desire for women. After an abusive 7 year marriage to a man ended, I started talking to women. Most of them were bisexual and wanted a threesome with their partners, which never interested me. I'm now engaged to a man who is open minded and understands me and accepts me for who I am. I fight for human rights and sometimes it can feel like I'm being torn between a rock and a hard place in regards to coming out and letting the world accept me for who I am. For right now my fiance accepts me and my family is aware of who I am but it's not talked about because I come from a religious family.

What is the toughest thing about being bisexual?

Being misunderstood and judged.

What is the best thing about being bisexual?

Being able to see past gender and experience loving a persons true self, intimately and personally.

How have other people in your life reacted to your bisexuality?

There are the good accepting reactions and there are the bad and narrow minded reactions. I respect both reactions and go on living my life. Their reactions only affect me when I allow them too and I try not to allow myself to give energy to the negative reactions.

What advice do you have for someone who thinks they may be bi or who is in the process of coming out as bi?

Examine yourself and prepare your mind to persevere through the difficult judgments that will come your way.