Female

Bisexual

United States



Hi, I‘m Latanya. I am Bisexual.

Teacher. Lover of words. Reader. Writer. Wife. Mother. I live in Los Angeles, but I enjoy traveling the world.

What being bisexual means to me

Loving my truth, be it man or woman. Love's the thing you know.

What I would like the world to know about bisexuals

Our partners do not dictate our sexuality. I'm married to a man yet I'm not straight. I'm still bisexual. We are normal like everyone else.

What was your path to a bisexual identity?

As a kid, I knew I differed from the "straight" girls at school. I like boys, but I liked girls, which confused me. Growing up in the 80s, there were two camps: straight and gay. But, where did I belong? Neither fit. I knew of no appropriate name. However, to save face and protect myself from a hostile society, I picked the easier solution and passed as straight. I never stopped liking girls. I played the part of a happy straight chick even when I wasn't.

At the age of thirty-eight, I claimed my truth and gave it a name: bisexual.

What is the toughest thing about being bisexual?

Getting people to see bi people as existing. Seeing that my marriage DOES NOT make me straight. Finding other bi people around me.

What is the best thing about being bisexual?

Feeling special. I'm not homosexual nor am I heterosexual. I exist in a special community.

How have other people in your life reacted to your bisexuality?

My husband's okay. My brother in law who's gay loves me. My youngest brother and his girlfriend are fine. I haven't told my mother, but one day I will.

What advice do you have for someone who thinks they may be bi or who is in the process of coming out as bi?

Be honest with yourself. Don't wait for others' approval to live the way you are.