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Hi, I‘m Jourdin. I am Bisexual.

I’m in school, studying lighting design for theatre, have an extreme dependence on caffeine, and I like to think I’m pretty cool.

What being bisexual means to me

To me, being bi is about being open minded in everything you do. It means accepting others in ways that I’m not accepted because of my orientation.

What I would like the world to know about bisexuals

We are real. And we are here.

What was your path to a bisexual identity?

I didn’t come to realize I was bi until I was about 18. It started with me feeling a really strong connection to the LGBTQ+ community that I didn’t understand. As I got older I realized that I felt that connection because I could identify with it. When I accepted myself as bi, I came out at the age of 20.

What is the toughest thing about being bisexual?

The toughest thing is other people’s doubts in me. I am viewed as not gay enough OR straight enough, I’m more susceptible to cheat, I’m just going through a phase, the list goes on. Somehow my bisexuality seems to overshadow who I am as a person, ethically, romantically, and sexually.

What is the best thing about being bisexual?

The best thing about being bi is that it is the one thing I know for sure about myself and it’s the one thing in my life that is constant.

How have other people in your life reacted to your bisexuality?

I’ve gotten mixed reviews since I have come out as bi. Some people are unaffected by the news, while others claim my sexuality as a topic of conversation, while other members of my family have totally disowned me.

What advice do you have for someone who thinks they may be bi or who is in the process of coming out as bi?

It’s tough. It truly is. The visibility issue within the queer community can really take a toll on you, but you just have to remember that not everyone will question you and you have to embrace those people that accept you as who you are, dwell on the acceptance, not the invisibility that you can sometimes feel. And just own it! If you’re safe, make yourself visible, scream it from the rooftops, allow yourself to have power and I promise it’ll all turn out alright.