United States

Hi, I‘m Kathleen. I am Bisexual.

Hi! I live in Boise, Idaho with my husband of 16 years (best friend for 21 years!) we have a 155 lb Newfoundland named Zoe and a Border Collie named Luna. I supervise two 24-hr group homes for adults with various disabilities. We were part of the local music scene for about ten years through a small all ages venue and a recording studio in our home. We have an amazing community of friends who have become our family during our 15 years living in Boise. Our motto in life is, "Love is enough!"

What being bisexual means to me

My sexual identity is a percentage of my WHOLE self which does not define me entirely, but I am not 100% me without owning it. Sometimes it's relevant. Sometimes it's not. Like my shoe size!

What I would like the world to know about bisexuals

We are real. We are valid. We are as colorful as any other demographic. We can sometimes fall into one or many cliches simply because of who we are as our authentic selves. We can also be hard to put into any sort of box :)

What was your path to a bisexual identity?

My path started when I was seven years old. I've always LOVED women! But I happened to fall in love with a guy, so my same sex attractions felt irrelevant. On 9/9/17 I officially came out to my husband. It couldn't have gone better in my wildest dreams. He is 100% supportive and proud to watch me evolve into my true self. The path continues!

What is the toughest thing about being bisexual?

Being married to a man (a WONDERFUL man), it's hard to live openly without flat out flaunting my sexuality at every opportunity. I want to own it, but I don't want to shove it into every social setting. I'm working on it :)

What is the best thing about being bisexual?

I am wildly attracted to my husband, but I also get to authentically experience the beauty of women in every way!

How have other people in your life reacted to your bisexuality?

That is a very new experience for me. So far very supportive and curious. I'll get back to ya on this :)

What advice do you have for someone who thinks they may be bi or who is in the process of coming out as bi?

Don't ignore your gut feelings about this. You'll only hold yourself back in other areas of life as well. If you know something about yourself, be kind with it, own it, and do the world a favor by being who you are meant to be. If you're not sure about feelings on any given part of it, you can set it down and come back to it. If it turns out you are otherwise oriented, good for you! You'll still know yourself better for examining every feeling you experience.