Male

Bisexual

United States



Hi, I‘m Matt. I am Bisexual.

I live and work in Spokane, WA. I love hiking, camping, motorcycles, classic cars, and fishing. I am currently studying automotive technology to become a mechanic (a long held dream of mine). I am married, and have a kid, a dog, and a cat.

What being bisexual means to me

Being bisexual, for me at least, means that love knows no gender. I've been in relationships with both men and women, and I can honestly say that I wouldn't have it any other way. I would not be the person I am today without those relationships.

What I would like the world to know about bisexuals

I want the world to know that bisexuals are some of the most real friends you will ever have.

What was your path to a bisexual identity?

I struggled with my bisexual identity for years. I knew I was attracted to both sexes since puberty, but I just thought I was gay. I didn't come out as gay until I was 22 or 23, and I thought that was that. I was in a relationship with a man at the time, and I was happy. That relationship didn't work out, nor did the next one, but shortly after that, I met a wonderful woman, and after a year or so of dating, we were married. It was about the time I met her, that I finally figured out I was bisexual. She, fortunately, is an awesome woman and she accepts me for who I am. I couldn't be luckier.

What is the toughest thing about being bisexual?

I would say the toughest thing about being bisexual is being bisexual. It isn't easy. You second guess yourself and your feelings constantly, you feel isolated in the LGBTQA++ community because everything is about being gay, lesbian, or transgender, and there is a decided lack of support for bisexuals in terms of crisis lines, resources, etc.

What is the best thing about being bisexual?

The best thing about being bisexual, for me anyways, is that it gives a unique perspective of what love is.

How have other people in your life reacted to your bisexuality?

Some well, some not so well. Dad is cool with it, and so are my friends. My Mom and sister are not. We still talk, but I think they believe I'm straight since I married a woman.

What advice do you have for someone who thinks they may be bi or who is in the process of coming out as bi?

First off, you are not alone. There are many of us out there who would love to be a mentor, role model, or a friend to help you through this. Secondly, you got this. I know its tough to be strong, especially in the face of resistance, but you can do it. This journey is the most terrifying, gut wrenching, beautiful journey you can imagine. Never give up. It will be hard, it will be frustrating, it will be demoralizing, but it will also be better than you can imagine right now. When you get it figured out and/or when you come out, you will feel the most incredible sense of relief and freedom.