United States

Hi, I‘m Lillie. I am Bisexual.

Hi, I'm Lillie. I'm in Ohio and am currently studying social work with minors in women/gender studies and social justice. I enjoy socializing, crocheting, reading and learning new things. I am also visually impaired.

What being bisexual means to me

I am free to be attracted to whoever I choose regardless of gender.

What I would like the world to know about bisexuals

We are all different. That includes lifestyles, sexual preferences and everything else.

What was your path to a bisexual identity?

As a young teenager and later in my adolessants,, I secretly I think felt something similar to attraction to some women in particular or dating girls on the whole. It was not until my first serious relationship right before I started college that I thought I could be. While my partner supported me, he told another friend of his without my permission and this hurt. I then realized with my last ex and while he didn't condemn he focused on the sexual aspect and not on the emotional part at all. I remember telling a friend of mine how I felt about my stronger pull towards remonatic feelings towards women and he was supportive. Since then, I've been slowly coming out to friends and changed my interested in field on facebook the other day. Even though it isn't much and I'm not really ready to tell my family, these are steps.

What is the toughest thing about being bisexual?

Not really a common understanding and feelings of attraction or what I want my partner to be day to day. Some days I feel like I'm attracted to both men and women equally, then I desire men more and then other's I wonder if I'm strictly a lesbian. I have only started recognizing this in the past few months and identity is fluid so that could be a factor.

What is the best thing about being bisexual?

The freedom to be open and to set my own preferences about who I date. I love the options.

How have other people in your life reacted to your bisexuality?

My friends have been supportive. My exes were not and I have not told my family yet.

What advice do you have for someone who thinks they may be bi or who is in the process of coming out as bi?

Be gentle. Find someone you trust or who is bi or knows people who are. Its going to take a while and that's okay.