Female

Bisexual

United States



Hi, I‘m Lindsay. I am Bisexual.

First and foremost, I am a mother. She is my life and saved me from so much. I am also a preschool teacher earning my degree to teach inclusion and autistic children. In my spare time (which is almost never now with a preschool), I like to play video games and write stories. My stories are like my little escape from the world around me. I am an atheist but I never really care about others religions, as long as you don't try to shove it down my throat.

What being bisexual means to me

Being bisexual means I am not limited to only loving someone based on their erm, plumbing. I fall in love with a person's personality and how they truly over rather they are male or female.

What I would like the world to know about bisexuals

I would like the world to know bisexuals don't always cheat, we are not greedy, we don't need both to have a happy relationship. I explain it like this to people. I like cake. I like cookies. I don't need both on my plate to satisfy my sweet tooth. I am not going to lick the icing off the cake just because I only have cookies on my plate... And, Just because I am eating cake today..doesn't mean I stopped liking cookies. I just really like this particular slice of cake right now.

What was your path to a bisexual identity?

I came out as bisexual in 2007 at the age of 17. My mother fully supported me and still does. When I was younger, I knew I liked both boys and girls. My mom had a few gay male friends and never shyed away from the topic of homosexuality, how it was okay to love who you love. I always assumed that everyone liked both and just chose the opposite sex to make babies. I was told it was wrong in middle school and was told I would be considered weird by others if anyone knew from other members of my family and also friends. In 2007, I finally told my mom everything (me being bi, having a girlfriend who she thought was my best friend, emotional issues i had). Her only dislike, my girlfriend stayed at my house and slept in my bed. That was put to a stop even though we never had sex. I am very proud of my bisexuality now and voice my opinion on bi hate a lot. I still fight the stigma of being bisexual and still have to clear up common misconceptions to my dad and others. My daughter knows mommy likes both boys and girls and she doesn't like either right now because she is three, but finds everyone beautiful.

What is the toughest thing about being bisexual?

I want to say the toughest thing is over coming the many misconceptions of bisexuality, but to me, It's getting hate and shammed by other members of the LGBTQ community. We are all fighting for our rights to love who we love, but bisexuals are dismissed as 'too straight' or 'haven't picked a side' by other gay and lesbian peers.

What is the best thing about being bisexual?

The best thing about being bisexual is I can stick my hand down someone's pants and be happy with what I find. Male, Female. Doesn't matter. I can work with it.

How have other people in your life reacted to your bisexuality?

My mom has always supported it. I feared telling other members of my family. I got a bit of hate from some of them, but an outpouring of love from others. I choose to surround myself with the ones who love all of me and not just the parts they like.

What advice do you have for someone who thinks they may be bi or who is in the process of coming out as bi?

I will give you the advice my mom gave me. Search in your heart and make sure this is who you are. Do not make a rash judgement. There is going to be people who hate it and that is okay. Screw them and move on. There will also be people who love you and your sexuality. No one can decide who you are but you, so don't listen to them in this. Only yourself.