United States

Hi, I‘m Blaize. I am Bisexual.

I am an Influencer Relations Associate for a full-service influencer marketing agency in Chicago, IL. I recently graduated with a Master of Science in Journalism from the University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaign, where I also received a Bachelor of Science in Broadcast Journalism degree. While in college, I was a member of a fraternity and worked with several campus media organisations. I have always been a passionate writer and, since coming out, have continually used my writing to advocate for the LGBTQ+ community. In my free time, I enjoy reading, exercising, Netflix, spending time outside and spending time with my family.

What being bisexual means to me

Bisexuality means that I am not going to be placed under a specific label to fit the expectations of the straight or gay communities; I am the one who is able to express my sexual orientation and identifying as bisexual is what I am the most comfortable with.

What I would like the world to know about bisexuals

We are not confused, going through a phase, or anything other of confident and sure of our sexual orientation.

What was your path to a bisexual identity?

I came out through an article in a school newspaper after several years of figuring out my sexuality. Before coming out, I was pressured by gay men to ditch the idea of bisexuality but, ultimately, I knew that I was. It took me longer to come out because of this, but I am happy I waited until I was confident in my sexual orientation and did not let others pressure me to fit their ideas.

What is the toughest thing about being bisexual?

There is a stigma that we are confused and that is the must frustrating part to me. I am a well-educated adult; I am more than capable of interpreting my feelings and expressing them as I best see fit.

What is the best thing about being bisexual?

I think being bisexual really opens your mind to a lot in life. I find that I can look at things in less than a black and white lens and keep an open mind regarding many things, not just in reference to sexual orientation.

How have other people in your life reacted to your bisexuality?

My family is 100% supportive. While at first they were unsure of what it even meant to be bisexual, they ultimately just care about my happiness and have supported me since I came out unwavering. The biggest struggle I have found is in the dating world, particularly with gay men. It seems that a lot of them have issues with accepting bisexual men, at least in terms of long-term relationships.

What advice do you have for someone who thinks they may be bi or who is in the process of coming out as bi?

Explore your feelings and don't let anyone tell you who you are or who you should be; live your life the way you best see fit.